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How do I get around my girlfriend bieng SO sexualy shy?

I’ve been going out with my girlfriend for a while… well actualy a month or so… in the beginning she was extremely shy… touching places would serve me a slap.

I’ve gotten as far as bieng able to touch where I want but its so frustrating… each time I try to go in to finger her she pulls away my hand and says that shes scared of getting an orgasm…

Although we have talked about sex and other realated subjects… so I know that she couldnt be THAAAT shy when it comes to that… I knew that shes was the shy tipe from the beginning and knew what I was getting myself into… but it feels like its taking for ever…

how can I speed up the process… I need some techniques that actualy work…

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Answer #1

ye I know that she needs more time… and I guess the things she tries to touch in a month of going out… she prob isnt THAT shy…

WOW first dude who comented… your a legend not kissing for 2 months… me, on the other hand, would go bezurk. I tried to get the awqudnis of, kissing, hugging and holding hand, over with early on… I’ve neva had a girlfriend this shy…

to be honest its much more fun… not that am treating it as a game but its more chalanging… BUT I dont want to loose her over physical stuff… even though I cant help to feel like its a biggie for me. AND its a bit of a snowball effect aswell… she knows that she is shy and doesnt want to do the things I want to now… and this makes her scared that Ill cheat on her.

shez told me a few times that we should be totaly honest with each other if I do somthing with another girl..

and to make matters wors… she is away for the holidays… for 5weeks… lol kinda sucks but ye.

Answer #2

1 month and you’re already doing that stuff? Aren’t you moving a bit fast? Why are you trying to force this? I mean, I know you’re a guy(so am I) and I know that a male’s sex drive can be high(mine is extremely so, to the point of annoyance), but you shouldn’t be letting it control you. Are you only in this relationship for physical reasons? Because that’s what it sounds like. As agonizing as it was, me and my love didn’t kiss for two months. Before that, we had a few shy hugs and were holding hands in private. Now…well, you couldn’t tell. We’re completely opposite of celibate.

These things come with time. Trying to force the physical part will just ruin any potential relationship.

Answer #3

My girlfriend was just like that for the first month or two. Its going to take some time. And you dont want to push her. You need to let her no that she can always trust you. Let her no how much you like her/love her. She needs to be completely comfortable with you which sucks for us guys. But if you prove to her she can trust you maybe after alittle she might let you do something. Maybe let her touch you or something like that. Start with hugging kissing. The simple stuff and EVENTUALLY she will come around. Remember dont let your dic* control you.Need more help fun mail me:) -Reece

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