How do homosexuals usually deal with homophobic loved ones?

first of all, im sorry that happened to you. I couldnt fathom how hard it is. I hope the man who did it is in jail.

to answer your question, maybe you could tell him that you’re his brother and you know what he’s going through and what he went through. maybe he doesnt want to be touched at all by any male (including you) because of that traumatic experience. and also, no matter what he thinks, you’ll always take care of him and would never allow anything remotely like that to happen again.

he could be acting strangely because he thinks that you left him or turned his back on him (maybe in his mind, you became what he abhors, someone who likes guys). you could assure him that being homosexual doesnt diminish your love for him (as a brother).

well first things first, a hug through a message, im so sorry about your traumatic event and I hope that you have found peace with it.

I think the most important thing to do is give your brother time and some space, he still loves you deep down but is confused and hasnt yet put the pieces together.

Well I’m sorry this has happened to y’all but I think that if you don’t believe he’s over it y’all should have a talk about it. It will probably be hard but if you get everything out on the table things will clear up and it could help y’all move on.

‘I don’t believe my brother has any chance of being gay. He is actually a legitimate Asexual.’

Yeah. You cannot actually know this. In fact he probably does not know this (so how could you?). He has not dealt with the trauma. And until he does there is not much you can do. Respect his boundaries and dont tease him, it is not helpful. If he wont deal with it, then all you can do is give it time.

You want to say to just because your gay it doesnt mean you are sexually attracted to every male you see, sit down and talk to him and it may help you and your brother to forget the past. :)