How come people are so mean sometimes...and what do I do about it?

Earlier today I got a friend request on facebook. It was my bff’s Ex. I’m not his biggest fan but I accepted and we started to talk online. He later IMed me, and I wasn’t jumping out of my seat about that either but I talked to him because he told me he had a quesiton. So he asked me if I liked his BFF and I told him no and we just started talking, I don’t remeber why but he upset me and I called him a name I shouldn’t have. He just laughed about it because we usually joke about hating each other. But than later on he told me I was ugly, and that he hates braces. and than was like You have never even had a boy friend. and it made me feel terrible and like I was an ugly person. Now I beleive every person is beautiful but his comments just really upset me and I don’t know what to do. I do love myself even though sometimes I don’t. I just don’t know what to do. I apologized for calling him a bad name too. Help? Please! I know that I need to move on but I just feel so ugly right now and I can’t believe that some people would say that to others. I mean, I can’t help it if my face is longer than others, or if I’m not the skinniest girl or if I’m missing two of my teeth. I mean I am happy and thankful to even be given the oppurtunity to live a healthy life, so why do people have to be mean like that.

Answer #1

your not ugly don’t listen to everyone if you do that people will run your life and when that happen bad thing can happen you can just ignore that jerk if you want to help people like this try to make them feel better about them self hang out with them I hope I help =]

Answer #2

And how can I help others who feel this way sometimes.

Thank you Volleeit18

Answer #3

well, lads can be like that. its just the way they are sometimes. he probs felt because you said one bad thing, he had to say the most horrible thing and make it 10 times worse. I have older brothers, and they even admitted..they know the best way to upset a girl is to call them “ugly”, but who is this lad or any other person to decide what beautiful and ugly is? people have different opions and what they are attracted to. I recon in every girls life they have been called ugly before unfortunately. but if your comfortable and confident with who you are, dont let one person get you down. hes not worth it. dont worry about it. all the best

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Answer #4

I know what you mean. think of it this way: yur not his biggest fan, so his opinion of you should mean nothing to you. why should what some random loser says to you affect how you think of yourself? he’s nothing to you. it’s the opinions of those closest to you that should matter the most. that’s how I look at things. which would hurt more?: if your worst enemie called you, let’s say fat, or if your best friend did?
good luck and fun mail me if you need anything else:)

Answer #5

“Comments about haha me again Posted by mh2m 3 months ago.

aww your soo cute and pretty”

proof. I just had a quick look through your pics, and you are SO not ugly… I swear I wish I looked like you so bad! I’m definitely not pretty, or skinny. and it seriously really hurts me to be around my friends- they’re all so gorgeous you shouldn’t have this problem because you ARE gorgeous, just because some prick tells you otherwise, doesn’t mean he’s telling the truth braces are a temporary thing…think, after you get them, you’re gunna have lovely teeth. you will never have a problem with them again help people by telling them how amazing they are. to be told that face to face would be the most amazing thing ever to hear. IGNORE HIM! love ally

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