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How Can I Talk to my mom about homosexuals?

I want to talk to my about how im feeling about being bi but I cant she will kill me, no one in my family is and everytime I ask her about how she feels about gay people she says that god made man for woman and woman for man not man for man and woman for woman, im scare to tell her I dont want her to hate me, what should I do?

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Answer #1

Firstly, you should figure out if you really are in fact bisexual or not. Since you’re in puberty, you can be attracted to just about anything, give it time, you need to find out if this is really what you like. I would try to experiment with this a bit, make sure that what you’re saying is certain.

Plan this out well, you don’t want to just tell your parents out of the blue what you are. Do this when you feel you’re ready and not because someone pressured you to do so. Keep in mind that you don’t need to rush into doing anything, take your time and decide when its best. Plan this out carefully I can’t stress this enough.

Since you’re in charge, pick the time and place. Make sure its a time when they can actually talk to you about this. Pick a time where it’s comfortable, private, and some place that’s familiar. Make sure to keep the outside distractions to a minimal.

Be prepared with this, your parents probably have biased information on how people that are bi-homosexual really are. Get some solid scientific facts down about the subject and if they resort to the creation story then you can tell them just how overpopulated the world really is. I read once that the world can really support just about 1 billion people, compared to the 6.8 billion on the earth now.

Now this is the tricky part, you need a safety plan. If your parents don’t take this well you need to be able to go somewhere until they cool off. Have a friend waiting for you just in case so you’re not at a loss. Most of all be patient with them, you probably have been fiddling with the idea that your bisexual for a while now and its new to your parents. They probably just started thinking about it, give them time to take it all in.

Most of all, be honest with them. Honesty keeps things simple and direct. After its all over, look back and reflect, you just did the hardest thing anyone can do. Give yourself a break.

Remember to figure out if you really are bisexual, you could well just be bicurious. Work this out and be certain, you don’t want a mess of trouble for no reason do you?

Answer #2

You need to figure out what it is worth to tell your parents. Because honestly, as wonderful as it would be for parents to love us unconditionally, life does not work that way. So you need to weigh the pros and cons of telling. If it isnt particularly damaging not to tell, then what is it you want to tell them for. And really, you should probably be sure before you tell them.

Answer #3

If you are under 20 years old, then I suggest not telling her until you are older. During the ages of 8, to, 20, both men and women are still developing and going through puberty. You will have feelings that you won’t when you are older.

If you really think she will be unsupportive about it, then you should wait.

Answer #4

Well if they are that opposed to it then maybe it’s best to not tell them. Better they not know than to dis-own you. If you would really feel forced to tell them then there is no other way than being direct. Just sit them both down. Together at the same time and say that you are bi-sexual.

Answer #5

well it depends if your a guy or a girl…and it depends if your gunna tell your mom or dad…and it depends how old you are so I cat really answer that if idon’t know so put all that info on this convo. thing…but if you want because I dont wanna be like a creeper or anything =o

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