How can I still be his friend if he makes me uncomfortable?

Ok so today I was out hanging with my best friend and some of his friends. So I notice there’s something wrong my best friend, he pulls me to the side takes a deep breath and says, “I’m gay”. Now this was a shocker, but I’m like ok, your my bro I still luv ya, but then he says “I like you though”. I was really suprised but I just said, “well you know I have a girlfriend” and he said “ok” and that was it. So 4 the rest of the night he was a little bit closer to me than he normally is, like grabbing on me and standing really close. I don’t have a problem with him being gay, but he’s made me really uncomfortable, I don’t want to make him feel bad though either, a lil help please???

Answer #1

could it be possible that he was really just like that with you before but you dont notice it because you always thought of him as a guy? like you just noticed that he’s close because you now know that he’s gay?

think about it. :-)

also, I suggest that since you still want to be his friend just, stay like before. or have a serious conversation with him that like, you were surprised about his confession BUT ensure that you understand him and will support him like before. but he has to know his limits :s

Answer #2

uhmm this is a tough one… I think the best thing to do is being honest with him if he continues acting weird with you. Tell him how you feel for your girlfriend and telling him that you like him as a friend and a bro.. nothing else nothing more. It has happened with me with guys a lot of times that they come and tell me how they feel and I don’t want to lose them as friends but im not interested in a relationship with them either. It sucks having to lose a friendship over this things.. but if you are not honest with him, he will always have hope that maybe someday you will date him. Be Brave, try to be as sensitive as you can , understanding his position not hurting his feelings but being clear of what you want. Good luck!

Answer #3

Well.. the only way to get him to stop is if you gently tell him that you’re not comfortable with him doing that stuff. You could either joke with him about it and say something like Heyy, hands off. instert girlfriends name might get a little jealous! or something similar. Or you could seriously tell him Although you’re my best friend and I love you like a brother, this doesn’t make me feel quite comfortable.

If you’re not offensive about it, he’ll be a lot more understanding.

Answer #4

be honest I say

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