How can I start trusting my boyfriend again?

Hi Dear,

Things like that happen especially if your relationship it’s not deep yet.

From what you wrote I can see that you love him so much even your jealousy make you more attached to him.

It’s not important if he have account or not, the important is you can trust him again? because maybe now it’s account and after 2 years it’s another girl etc.

you have to know 2 things very important for your problem:

1)don’t be slave for your lover and I mean by that don’t try to fix all the problem just from your side. take 50% of your responsibility to keep the relationship. yes it’s hard sometimes I know.

2)don’t run like crazy after him even you know he’s lying on you, Because when he knows that you want to keep him even he does maybe bad things, he’ll do it again and again, because he BELIEVE that you’re going to stay with him., especially if it happened more than once.

let me give you an example:

it’s like a husband who cheats on his wife. the first time it’s very hard to cheat, but if his wife knew about it and forgave him, it will be more easiest for him to cheat again because he knows that his wife can forgive and it’s not going to be so hard on her bla bla bla…but if his wife left him, he will run after her if he truly love her etc.

So work on that part from your side. BE STRICT. and what I mean by that is show him that you can leave him one day and it’s not a game that he can play it wherever he wants. Show him that you have feelings and not all the feelings that you have is just for him, you have feelings and respect for yourself and you don’t like untrusted guys.

How to be strict?

well you said he did it again so stay far from him for a while, don’t call him don’t email him and see what happen. Try to make him jealous and see if he truly loves you. If Yes he stops all the internet stuff that he’s doing and he will do it just for you.

How to make him jealous and he is faraway from u?

well don’t answer the phone, let someone else answer and say for example, she went out with friend, but who’s the friend don’t let him know boy or girl. don’t answer your cellphone, let him feel the same feelings that you had. when you chat online don’t be an answer machine for his questions on msn or yahoo, be slow and smart and let him think that maybe you’re chatting with someone else. things like that will make him crazy if he AND I REPEAT if he really loves you.

How to be sure that I can trust him again?

well you know your boyfriend more than me, you can know from his voice or from his eyes especially. You can see that in what he’s doing. Is he giving you more time? is he spending more time with you online chatting? He wants to see you? when he see you, he fall on you like a crazy lover? when he say “I LOVE U” he do it physically too, like he come closer to you? he hug you? or it’s just a word from his mouth?

You said that he lives faraway from you and you can’t see each other a lot. Well this thing should make him more passionate for you when he see you. Check his eyes when he see you for the first moment after a while, he look straight in your eyes or somewhere else?

Be Smart and use your brain like a guide and not your heart

BE CAREFUL: If you know that your boyfriend really loves you and 85% of the time we know. In this case my ideas can help, BUT if he doesn’t, in this case the things you’re going to do will be a CHANCE for him to leave you, BUT it’s better to be now and not later, because it will hurts more.

Good Luck and stay in touch