How Can I Say No To My Future Boy Friends?

I’ve copied some advice heathershaw gave for another question, because it impressed me so much at the time:

she needs to avoid any sexual activity with him and be careful that he doesn’t coax her into it… go out in public with him and make sure that nothing leads them back to a place where they could be intimate with each other, in other words, avoid putting herself in certain situations. Like if he comes to see her, they could just meet somwhere, spend time together, then part ways and he will go where he is staying and she will go home. If she cannot set those boundaries and they BOTH respect them, then it will just go on the same way …

So Heather’s advice (thanks, Heather!) is that being polite and talking about it may not be enough (although it certainly should be - that guy assaulted you!). Staying away from the risky places is best - go out together in public. If you want to send the message that you are not available for sex, then avoid being alone together. Lying next to him is really, really risky, because of the messages he’s going to think you’re sending. It’s tough advice but I was really struck by how true it is.

But also, just because something bad like this has happened to you, you don’t need to feel you’re tainted by it. You can move on, and it’s clear that you want to. Well done! Funmail me if you want to talk more, but I’m sure you’ll get more replies than just this one, anway.