How can I reasonably ask my parents for more freedom?

I am18 years old. Currently, I am asked the same questions by my parents when I step out of the house as when I was14. The usual “where are you going, who are you with, when will you be home” questions. I am moving away in the fall for university and I know I will have complete and utter freedom, but I would like to experience a taste of it now, where I will have parents to go to if anything happens. However, I have talked to them calmly on the situation and am instantly shot down when I suggest having them not ask who I am with, or where I will be going (I have a cell). I loose my temper at their stubbornnessnand blow up, which is not helping my cause. They are reasonable with freedoms about dating, I am reluctant to test freedoms on drinking and drugs for fear of loosing what I have, and my cerfew is what I set it as, which is no problem. How can I approach them in a way where they will listen, and give real answers instead of ‘because I say so’ ones?

Answer #1

It is probably a habbit. Tell them that you have a friend and you may move in with them untill college. That normally works as they will make accomidations for you to stay at home.

Answer #2

Well, you’re 18 so technically you’re an adult. They can’t MAKE you answer them. But what I’ve always thought should be abided by is, “Their house, their rules.” So…yeah. But it’s only a couple more months till you leave, so it shouldn’t be too terrible, should it? If you tried talking to them already, I’m not really sure what all could be done…But good luck. :)

Answer #3

well you are 18 and the next time you start to talk to them and ask them for freedom tell them would they rather give you more freedom cause you are 18 or would they rather you lie to them cause they arent giving you enough freedom. and yes it is their house their rules but when I turned 16 I could do what I wanted cause my parents figured I was gonna be 18 in 2 years and was gonna do what I wanted to anyways so they would rather me do what I wanted to then so I wouldnt have hate toward them now that I am 18. I hope this helped probably not sorry

Answer #4

dont know if this will help, but I had the same problem, until I went to college… then they had no choice… (that and I threatened never to come home unless I got the freedom I wanted). Deal with it for a little while. And know that even if you are in college, those questions are still probably going to be there when you’re at home… not worrying about you will never happen…

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