How do I ask my parents?

Having just come back from Toronto visiting my brother who is one of the science teachers at the Ontario Science Centre.

I think that your Dad is being sensible, especially with some areas of the city.

We stayed Downtown and there are a lot of aggressive drunks and a problem with gangs. We saw it all going on.

You are going to have to work at proving that you are responsible and careful, and going out alone is NOT being responsible. You are at an age (15) when you feel that your are an adult. You are getting there but you are still legally a minor. Sorry, that’s the fact. You “think” that you can cope, because the schools tell you how “empowered” you are and how your self-esteem comes before all else. They are wrong, because everyone thinks the same way. This is not doing any of you any favours once the “real world” kicks in.

My suggestion, arrange to go to a movie or concert, or even to a local attraction with some friends who are likely to be responsible and not take silly chances.

Too many people think that “it can’t happen to them” and it can. Listen to your parents, believe it or not they aren’t your enemies, but your freedom has to be earned. If you stomp out of the house or to your room that will not help you as Dad will dig in. I can tell you this from personal experience and it is also what I did with my son and daughter.

But as they got older they got more freedom. We had no real difficulties and they are now independent, although living here at home. Our eldest daughter is 24 and son is 20. Rent is very expensive in England.

I know that it is frustrating, but hang in there, it will work out, if you don’t push it too far.

BTW, paintballing at Sgt Splatters was brilliant.