What do I do when my Father has stopped being there for me?

I agree with what the others have said, but I also believe you need to think about what is best for you.

If keeping in contact causes you as much pain and heartache as it seems, it might be best to simply stop trying. I know that he’s your father, but if he’s being a jerk do you really need that kind of person in your life?

I have a similar situation with my own father. My parents divorced when I was 8, and he remarried a couple of years later. The only time I saw or heard from him was when he was taking my mother back to court to argue some point from the divorce, or using myself and my sisters to “get back at” my mother. At age 16 he took my mother to court again to argue some other stupid point, but stopped by to visit with me and my sisters. At that meeting he said that one other item he wanted to resolve in court was that he felt that I wasn’t his son and that I was the product of an affair.

The truth is that I was and still am his son. He said that to hurt me, upset my sisters and in turn leave my mother with three upset children to deal with. His way of getting back at my mother.

I stopped all contact with him from that day. I didn’t talk to him or see him for 17 years. When I did, he claimed that he never said that, and that if it was said that it must have been his second wife that said it. More lies, more bull. I don’t need that in my life. I’ve moved on. That was 10 years ago.

Today, I’m very happy and don’t miss any of the games or garbage from my father. My sisters are trying to restart a relationship with him, but not me. I hear from them the conditions he places on their contact, when they can call, what he wants to hear from them and how often they need to write to him for him to answer. I still don’t need it.

Love should not be one sided, or have limits or restrictions. But it needs to be beneficial to both of you to work and survive. If it isn’t, then maybe you should think about moving on.

I know how you feel. my mom and dad split up when I was two. since then he had 3 other kids. when I got pregnant we were having a hard time and my dad invited us to live with him. he always locked himself in his room. I hardly saw him. then he moved out about a month later to be with his other kids. hes only seen his 3 month old grandson 3 times and one of those was in the hospital. I didnt know him very well and I didnt know what to say to let him know how much it hurt. I used to cry myself to sleep about it. now I have realised that I had a dad all along. my steo dad. I hated him but know that im an adult, looking back he was the one I always could go to, the one that was there on my bday and christmas, getting me presents. when my real dad didnt even call or stop by.

Well;;Your dad is probably upset knowing that Hes been through 2 divorces. The reaosn he’s not talking to you is probably becase he’s ashamed,or because it hurts fo him to talk to you. id first tell your Mom how you feel;;And ask her advice. But,Hes your father,and you have every right to call him.

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Well depends on if you want to talk to him or if you dont.. If you dont want him to talk to u then dont call him and maybe he will get up corage and call U but if you want to talk to him then yess call him and say…Dad i need to tell you something… I want to know why you dont ever talk to me anymore and you have forgoten me like i’m not in ur life and stufflike that hope this helps !! =kaite