I dont enjoy sex and sometimes it hurts

Hey EveryOne . . My Name Is Tanya And Im 18 Years Old. When Im Met My BoyFriend Last Year I Was A Virgin. All My Friends HAd Lost Their Virginity At The AGES oF 15 & 16 . .They All Told Me To Go For It With Every Boyfiend I met but I wanted to wait for someone special. finally when my boyfriend came along I new he was the one I wanted to spend my life with. my friends had told me about the experinece with the orgasim. said how powerful it was. so when me and my boyfriend finally lay down to sex I was sorta embarresed about what noise I would make. BUT NOTHING ALL I COULD FEEL WAS PAIN . now I no that your first time is ment to be realy sore. but the 2nd tie again all I could feel was pain and nothin else. weve had sex about 20 times now and I dont feel nothing at all. not even a slight thrilll. and when he fingers me with one finger it burns. and im in a lot of pain. whats rong with me?? PLEASE HELP I want to BE NORMAL :(

Answer #1

Well, it breaks down like this. Are you having sex with it because it is the right time or because you felt pressured into it why listening to your friends tell you to do every guy you can? That sounds a little slu tty if you ask me. Maybe you’re just really dry. Who knows. Everyone’s body works differently. But, when women (for the most part) have sex it is an emotional experience. If you’re not truly in love with the guy your with or you feel that the time is not right or there is no emotion involved for you that might be why there is discomfort and/or pain. Burning? Might be a medical thing but I’m not a doctor so I couldn’t really tell you. Do you have an OB/GYN? If so maybe you should tell him/her in confidence that your now sexually active and explain to him/her this pain and discomfort that you are feeling. But, you don’t have to have sex because your friends are. That’s kind of a stupid reason in my opinion. Also, orgasms are very intense. But, in my experiences, only when it actually meant something and when both me and my partner were ready to goto that next level in our relationship. Just hold off on the sex for a while. Teen pregnancy can and does happen even if you don’t think it can happen to you. Just a word of advice.

Answer #2

well you probrably just werent ready at the time and were pressured into it.you are normal but you were just not ready.

Answer #3

you sound pretty normal but id advise you to use your own mind, not listen to what your freinds say a lof of girls are still virgins, you dont need to give irt all away to please your freinds sounds like your not relaxing, and your tensing up you should also be using condoms/birth control and lots of lubricant I think you migh t need to do some more research on sex first before you start having it

Answer #4

You may want to read a little bit about sexual disorders to maybe get a feel of what is going on. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_disorders

It is just possible that you’re not ready to have sex, and if you’re mentally unprepared, unfortunately it’s not going to be a lot of fun. I would talk to a doctor about it. If you really dont want to, another alternative is to try masterbation, until you know what makes you feel good, it will be hard to feel good with someone else. Also might help you relax a little bit, and accept your body and your feelings…

Answer #5

haha I wish I could answer this one im only 14

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