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He's like a closed book

I’ve been with my boyfriend for nearly a year, I know loads about him but when it comes to talking about our relationship he doesnt like talking about it, I think he dernt say anything because his ex put him through a lot of sh*t when they were going out, she hurt him so much. I love him top piece’s and he dont show me any affection. How can I try and get him to tell me how he feels? Or do you think he doesnt love me? Im so confused, he’s really nice to me and he even lives with me but I still live with my father, do you think he’s just stayin with me for somewhere to saty or do you think he actually loves me?

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Answer #1

if hes been badly hurt int he past, then he will find it hard to open up because hes scared it might happen again, but if its been nearly a year he should now that you love him, and that your not going to hurt him, why dont you have a nice night out? go the pictures or for a meal or something and try getting him to open up, tel him how you feel and reassure him all the time that you love him, then maybe he could open up to you? tell him that you feel he doesnt love you because he doesnt show you any affection? he must love you otherwise I dont think he would of stayed with you for almost a year hope he opens up soon to you, sorry thast all the advice I could think of 

        x sophie-lea x
Answer #2

We’ve all been hurt by a past love, but if hes still holding onto that hurt, it means hes not over her! You dont enter a new relationship, until the old one is resolved! How can you call what you have a relationship if he doesnt even want to talk about it, or show you any kind of affection?You could just be a convenience, and thats why hes nice to you…because he doesnt have anywhere else to go. Love is based on caring, friendship, commitment and trust. When you are in love it is as if you have your best most trusted friend at your side AND you feel physically attracted to them. It is the best of both worlds! Love is a shared feeling between two people who have a vested interest in one anothers happiness. Love is the total surrender of your heart to another person with the security of knowing they will treat it better than you will. Love should feel good. It should not feel bad. Love should make you want to be a better person. Love is not demanding of your spirit but lifts it and makes it glow. Love is a good thing. Anything less is lust, deep friendship or attraction.

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