He's back, should I keep talking to him?

Same guy, more problems. I stopped talkin to the guy for a while, but a few weeks ago we started talking again. He’s engaged but most definitely does not act like it. The 1st time after we started talking again and we actually talked, he seemed changed. He told me he missed me and loved me. He also said that he used to like me a lot but was afraid to say anything. Then he said, he wishes he would have told me and that he thinks about what it would have been like if he had told me. He also asked what my thoughts were on an “us.” I’m supposed to go to his house this weekend to hang out with his family and him.(his mom loves me) A friend of mine said she honestly thinks he will try something on me. When I asked her why, she said b/c everything out of his mouth towards me has to be sexual. I will admit, he does talk like that a lot but I don’t know. Another thing, that has me wondering is a picture, he sent me. Let’s just say the pic was rated R. After he sent the pic to me he kept asking what I thought about it and if I liked it. Then today, he basically told me if I wanted to have sex to call him. I told him no, he’s done enough. He asked why not him. I told him he was engaged and all he could say, was yea I guess that it is a good reason. I guess, I need to know if I should continue to talk to him as just his friend or just stop talking to him period. I don’t really want to stop talking to him but there is NO WAY I’m helping him cheat.

Answer #1

Here is a truism throughout all time. No one changes. Ever. You might think people change but they will always be that same person with those same personality quirks and you will have the same problems. If he cheated on you and is engaged you said? He is now cheating on her with you. He is not looking to be “just friends”. He wants to keep you around to keep trying to have sex with you because, lets face it, he sucks. My advice to you is don’t talk to him anymore. You’re only setting yourself up to be used by someone who can’t seem to understand the fact that he is in a very involved relationship to another female. I mean he asked you why not. Doesn’t that say something about the guy? You told him no and before that he shouldn’t have even asked that question or sent that picture to you. If you were that girl he is engaged to and found out what he was doing or trying to do with his ex, what would you do in her shoes?

Answer #2

well I think that you should def. stop talking to him all together…he’s a liar…he should not b showing his body like that if he’s due to b married…that is completely rediculas…my boyfriend has a friend like that thats engaged but acts like he’s single and I can’t stand him…I don’t even like my guy hangin out with him cause I think he’s a bad influence…you should ask him if his fiance knows what he’s doin…and then when he says no b like…well she does now…that doesn’t mean that you have to tell her but it will make him leave you alone and might even scare him enough to tell her himself

Answer #3

Okay I have hard one of theses on my case and its a really hard matter to deal with because I know that I will always go back to him and there is no way to just stop talking all together it seems impossible and playing the whold I dont care card doesnt work becuase deep down you know in 5 minutes you are going to call him or tell him never mind sometimes nature just need to run it course no one can tell you to drop it I know believe me you have to do what you think is right and only you know what that is

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