Should I keep holding onto my feelings for him?

okay so you know how I said that I had an exboyfriend in all the questions you answered well they are all the same guy..I’m sure you knew that..! but anyways he is 15 and I’m 13 and like we were eachother’s first loves and firsts with sex.! and thats why I’m stuck between the “ him using me story” or the “ we are both just wanting eachothers sex story” I don’t know what to do. because all my bestfriends tell me “ lauren you need to let him go he’s using you and needa realize it” but its like for some odd reason I don’t want to take notice to him using me because I don’t think that he would ever do that! and its very hard for me to talk to my friends about because they don’t understand what I’m going through only he does because he knows how I feel and he knows that I’m about ready to say screw everything but just keep holding on because I don’t want to lose my first love and I don’t want to lose the person that I’ve been so close to for so long.because he means so much to me! like we get into arguements all the time.but at the end of the day we both know that we love eachother we aren’t together and he got a girl.and he’s happy with her.but we still say the “iloveyou” and the “imissyou” because we aren’t going to hold back our feelings towards eachother.! can you give me advice on thiss please?

Answer #1

Hold back feelings for each other? If he really loved, and missed you, he wouldnt be with another girl! Thats a very strange way of showing his love for you! This is why I try to advise very young teens to stay clear of having sex. Girls just dont understand the emotional side effects that come from it…You are emotionally attached to him, and thats why you are having a hard time getting over him. If you wouldnt have had sex, moving on would have been very easy! Rarely our first love is our last love, because young love doesnt last! Everybody had a first love that they needed to get over at some point. We all survive, and it does make us stronger.

*Don’t be so naive as to believe that you will never love anyone as much as your first love. Most first loves and heartbreaks occur around in your teens or early 20s. You still have most of your life ahead of you to find the love of your life.

*With maturity, your capacity to love another human being grows. Be grateful for the experience of your first love.

*Remember that getting your heart broken for the first time is a fact of life.

*Always remember, it’s all in your head. This feeling is just a picture you have created in your head of the way you want things to be. Once you let that go, you’ll be fine.

*Never ever try getting back with your ex it will only hurt you in the long run.

*Don’t keep running back, although it seems like it will make things better, its only temporary. If you keep running back it makes it just that much worst in the end. Seriously, end it. Do not go back.

Answer #2

they say that love is blind for a reason. all your friends are telling you that he’s using you, which he is, but you can’t see it. if he’s happy with another girl then so be it. accept it and move on, you two are no more. don’t make this boy your priority, when you’re only his option.

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