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He dosen't think I love him

So im pregnant and I don’t really want to have sex that often any more my fiancee seems to think I’ve gone of him. and now he’s saying reall sarcatic things what shall I do ? Help

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Answer #1

Being pregnant has nothing to do with not wanting sex. So telling him that isnt going to help. What you can do is explain what parts of the being pregnant are turning you off from sex. So if you’re throwing up all day, and you’re tired, or whatever, and that’s what is turning you off from sex, then try and explain that.

Oh, and moving past angelfire’s view of sex as a necessary burden which men take pleasure from, and women have to suffer through, sex brings intimacy to a relationship. He may not be demanding sex for the physical connection, but also the emotional one. You’re not just rejecting him sexually, but you’re rejecting being close with him… Of course he could just be a selfish douche bag, but there are other possibilities you may want to consider (all men are not evil, really…)

So moving on to what you should do. Tell him that his sarcastic remarks are hurtful, (I feel hurt) and that they are pushing you away (I feel like you are pushing me away, and that makes it even harder for me to want to be near you so we can have sex), etc etc, lots of I words, explain how you feel, and ask him to explain how he feels. If he’s missing the intimacy of being with you, may be there’s other things you can replace with sex. And finally, you might want to explore your own reasons for being reluctant about having sex. Being pregnant does not turn off a person’s sex drive, and there may be other things going on here (or not, the key is self awareness and communication…)

Answer #2

You sound frustrated and tired. Talk to him… he probably does feel pushed out (and it probably has little to do with sex). Explain that you’re tired and you dont want to do anything. Those hormones are probably not helping much either right now. And it’s not your fault. You may want to tell him that sometimes you’ll get hormonal and you’ll need space, and if he gives you that space for a bit, you’ll be back and able to do something with him. But you really have to communicate. And remember that this hormonal craziness and all these feelings do usually settle down… When you are feeling better, try and do something with him (even if you arent necessarily in the mood), you guys will get through this, it’s just going to take a little patience and a little work… and given that you’re going to have a baby soon, now is a good time to start working on this stuff.

Answer #3

Maybe you need to explain to him that your PREGNANT in case hes forgotten, and that sex does NOT equal love! There are so many ways to show love to someone without having to be physical.

If this is an indication of how he is now, imagine what married life will be like. He sounds like a very selfish, uncompassionate, insensitve guy!!

Answer #4

well your fiancee knows your pregnant so that means he should understand why you dont want to have sex that often anymore and if its bothering you tell him x

Answer #5

well he’s really sweet I think he feels pushed out somtimes I just want to sleep and don’t want to sit up and watch t.v I just want some help has any body else exprenced this we’ve been toghther for 4 years so I just don’t know what to NOW!

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