Why is it so hard for me to accept someone's gift?

Don’t worry i feel the same. It’s probably because you think that you cant give anything back that is better than what the gave to you.

it mabye because you are modist i find it hard sometimes too! :) but also its ok just say “oh thank you!” hope it helps _-+-_makie

I think it’s normal…. I sometimes feel similar whenever someone gets me something, minus the birthday/christmas times. Maybe it’s because they have given you something and you haven’t given them anything. It’s either guilt or the sense that you are now in their debt. You hate the feeling of owing someone something….

yeah, I’m like that too

it could be an insecurity thing. like accepting compliments is hard for some people

they are getting my gifts because of my birthday but sometimes people just give me things out of random and its both family and friends.

Because it implies there’s something worthy about you, and you’re afraid of having to live up to that expectation?

But you don’t have to “live up” to it, because it’s already true.

Well first I’ll just say that I’m not exactly sure because I don’t really know everything about your family or friends but this is what I would do. I would try to find out what all the different consequences and repercussions that will take place as an effect of you accepting these random gifts are.Also i would say try to figure out if you really like it when they buy you random gifts or not. IF you really don’t like them buying you random gifts I would ask them to stop because it might be encroaching on your individuality or making you feel crowded because of that..

Sometimes parents will buy random gifts as a way to be there for their children but don’t actually know how. Also, them buying you random gifts may not be exactly what you want from them. You may want a different kind of support and relationship with them where you feel that they respect you more and acknowledge your individuality.

You may also not like the fact that they are giving you gifts because they don’t understand you. So buying you gifts doesn’t really get them to understand you anymore and it may end up empowering them to feel like they can treat you however they feel like in the mean time, but this again may or may not be true in your case.

But I would say if you really don’t like it when they buy you random gifts to just ask them to stop.

So for your friends I can’t say because I don’t know them but I would also look at all the different dynamics in those situations as well (your friends) and try to come up with an action if you feel like anything should take place.

Also for your parents, sometimes parents will buy their children gifts to feel good about themselves, so really it isn’t about you but its because they may feel like they are guilty, insecure, and/or bad parents or something like that and only do it because it makes themselves feel better.

Your family buying you gifts may be encroaching on your personal emotional space, not giving you the chance to feel like yourself and to really figure out what it is you really want, because your constantly dealing with all these other gifts. Sometimes if parents are giving you gifts that you would normally or otherwise get for yourself it could be preventing you from experiencing any sort of feeling of independence and growing up. But then again these are all just possibilities..

yeah, i find it hard to do that too…