Godly fiance, or abusive fiance... which one is he?

Well, when I said he’s abused his mom, he has actually hit her. He caused internal bleeding, and it was pretty bad because she was almost healed from an operation… so, I don’t know… he promised he would change, and I’m hoping he will, because I don’t want to leave him.

I am not sure he is so abusive as you describe him, but I am even saying that never marry anybody if you do not trust, and you have bad feelings/anticipation.

Well, he promised he’d change. I’m not sure if I’d put alot of faith into it, because I am really scared of what to think at this point. Thanks for the help. He’s not even acted abusive to me, no yelling, threatening, or anything. If I don’t want to do something its all “ok, then what do YOU want, baby?” and its just really confusing… I think I know he wouldn’t hurt ME, but someone else… that is a different story… Is all this wrong?

most abuse (physical) doesn’t start until you are too dependent to walk away easily. the most dangerous time (when it starts for most victims) is during pregnancy. second, is after marriage. usually abusers use physical violence as a way to keep the power and control, to get what he wants. almost everyone that i’ve talked to (it’s alot, i’ve worked in domestic violence for 5 years now) says that they never thought he could be violent with them. you’ve got some warning by his treatment of his mother, don’t ignore it, go with your gut and keep yourself safe. and abusers come in all types, preachers, doctors, you name it.