Fiancee has an addiction

I really feel for you kristina. It’s hard to answer, I guess the first thing to do is to try and not make this a big or confrontational issue. The more you make it a big deal, the more he will shut you out and thus create major problems in the relationship. You’ve got to find a way to get him to open up and be honest about it. Tell him that it’s not a big deal, he can still watch it but maybe he could try and reduce how much he watches. That way least he wont be lying to you and you’ll have made a start. I guess from porn he can get some kind of ideal, but it doesn’t reflect real life. Just try and get him to open up to you. To be honest about why he is choosing porn over you. Maybe he finds you a little less sexually attractive as you are pregnant, then again I guess after 3 months you’re not that far gone. The point is even if it would hurt you to hear something like this, it is honest. And honesty and communication is crucial in a relationship. If you have that you can overcome anything in my view.

Also what are you classing as a porn addiction? I saw a documentary on this and the people who had one were really severe. They would spend like multiple, like 6 hours a night watching it, and wouldn’t go out and socialise with other people. So you have to consider how bad it is relative to that. The extent to which it impacts on his normal life. Maybe you calling it an addiction if it isn’t one would create more unneeded animosity between the two of you. Anyway I hope I helped at least a little.