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Can an ex-addict have sex without renewing their addiction?

Do you believe it is possible for a sex addict ever to break the addiction and to actually have a normal sex life?

I wasn’t diagnosed as such, yet my boyfriend is a psychologist and insists that I have it. I am in madly in love with this man. He is everything I’ve ever wanted.

Its been over a year and he has told me that we’re waiting for my own sake. He’s afraid to do anything that may trigger me back onto the spiral and yet I want him. Its nothing like what I’ve felt, before. It isn’t to patch some emotional void, its because I love him and because I want that closeness and that pleasure with him. I feel as if I can do that, now.

Before, it wasn’t even with one person. It was like a drug. I felt great while doing it and terrible, afterward, thus I kept doing it, even when it meant doing some things that I’m very, very ashamed of, today. I never actually had a boyfriend during that time. Love wasn’t even a factor.

Without pretending to know me better than I know myself and without referencing me, do you believe that a sex addict is capable of resuming a normal sex life?

Why or why not?

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Answer #1

you love him. I think you will feel great while doing it and great afterwards because you love this guy and I dont think youll betray him

fact is any habit can be cured with self control and I think your boyfriend is way off on his remark.

if you really were a nymphomaniac you wouldnt have endured even 2 days without having sex. let alone one year, so really I think you never really were a real sex addict to begin with, you were an addict to endorphins which are released during sex, thats why you always felt bad afterwards (the effect wore off).

if youd ever had tried opium youd have gotten addicted to it instantly (opium releases endorphins) so really, you just have an addictive personality

and also there is nothing wrong with over sexing, if its only with your partner ;)

Answer #2

(Did you know that VH1 is airing a show this season called Sex Addiction with Dr. Drew) http://www.thrfeed.com/2009/04/vh1-greenlights-sex-rehab-.html

Have you had therapy for this? And I do NOT mean your boyfriend. He could be the most skilled psychologist in the world, but - as I am sure he knows - doctors must NEVER serve as doctors or therapists to them self nor to their loved ones. The relationship will ALWAYS color their judgement, and you can never attain the doctor - patient relationship you need to overcome and control this problem. He obviously loves you, but if you are ever going to be better you must seek out professional, dispassionate help.

I wish you both well! Good Luck!!

Answer #3

if u’ve broken your addiction than yes you can have sex with him and not get addicted

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