How can I cope with my older role model's break up?

Dear Tiff, You are learning a crucial tool in life….This is that you can’t control other peoples actions. You want things to stay the same….but the people you look up to are going a different direction. There is not one thing you can do. I know what you are feeling….What helps me is I look at the situation and say to myself….”O well life goes on, nothing I can do about the decisions people make”. Try this. Then think of something else. Don’t allow yourself to dwell on this. Maybe call one of them and ask them to go out to lunch or just hang out. Go through the changes with them. It may be great because now whoever they end up with will be a new friend for you. Get excited about their new relationships. Have fun!! This is really not a negative, it is simply change….Go with it and enjoy yourself. O yea, one more thing….Try not and look up to other human beings. This is always a let down in life when we do this..Only because human beings are not perfect..We all make mistakes and when we look up to others we place our “emotional state” in the hands of other individuals. No matter how great we think a person is….They are still human and placing your emotional state in the hands of imperfection is a dangerous thing. You can take areas of how people run their life, like it…. and incorporate it into your life….This is fine. But try not and “look up” to people anymore. Look up to yourself and depend on yourself, love yourself, take care of yourself. Take little qualities you see and like in others and incorporate them in to your life etc….Hope this helps. Familycoach