Father Issues

You are saying he is abusive and asking if you should take someone. That statement in itself shows you must be doubting whether he would be violent towards you. If you did not think it you would not write it so I suggest you go with someone else for your own safety.

If that’s the case - no matter how mad he get’s - suggest that he get some help. I’m a recovering drug addict, I hated when people told me to get help in the past, but I thank them now that I’m sober. He has a disease and he needs help.

bring a guy friend and have him sit a couple tables away from you BRING SOMEONE WITH YOU

I would have someone that you know, love, and trust, go there and sit somewhere close just to keep an eye on things to make sure they dont go bad… :~)

good luck… hope I helped

no… it is more or less drugs and acohol… but see… under it all I know my daddy is a good man…the problem is obviously the drugs… thanks for you help Mandyloo… I will take it all to heart. Have a good Day

I’ve had the same issues as you. My father has told me to my face that he prefers my sister over me, and has abused me before that. Just know that, as you are his child, he probably loves you just as much as he always has but doesn’t know how to express it to you anymore. As far as the abusive thing. I would have some one go and sit near by if you feel that threatened. If someone can’t go with you, carry a cell phone or something to make sure that you can get ahold of someone incase of an emergency. If the dinner does go very badly, I suggest counting you losses and not seeing your dad alone or for extended periods of time. I know you love him, but you have to make sure you’re okay and safe. Just please be carefull.

Hes abusive? If he is - do you honestly think it’s best to go alone.

Also, why does your father dilike you? Have you done something to disapoint him? Have you hurt him? There is more to this story that I think you are letting on.

Know that your father loves you, but he is human just like anyone else. Everyone has their faults and their mistakes, just as he does. If you dont feel comfortbale with him alone, bring someone in your family with you.