Does this make me a bad friend?

Okay, so my best friend liked this boy at the beginning of september and he liked her.. but nothing ever happend between them, all they did was cuddle. And then he stopped liking her. The problem is that she is still mad crushing on him, and she keeps thinking something could eventually happend between them. But now I’ve started to hang out with him more and I like him. Then the other day I found out he likes me too. I want to tell my friend that its time to get over him (actually its been time for like 2 months now) and nothing is ever going to happend between them, but she has really low self esteem and im afraid if I tell her this shes just going to get mad at me. What should I do?? How can I let her know my situation without hurting her?? Do you think I would be a bad friend for trying to pursue this guy??

Thanks, Katie :)

Answer #1

HMM.. shouldnt really date your friends crushes causes a lot of drama… yes shes going to be mad I mean she likes the guy .. you might lose her as a friend if you tell her but if you dont tell her your going to lose her if she finds out… just maybe ask her if its okay for you to go out with so and so and if shes say no then respect her wishes…

Answer #2

yeah the same thing happend to me but the guy was a player man wh*re and liked liek everyone. my best friend is still going out with the guy and it really bothers me. I sugest you find another guy, if your friend is like me she’s going to hold it against you forever.

Answer #3

omg your reply is like what happend to me too like my friend kinda liked a guy and he liked me and I asked her if she was okay with it[this girl was my bes friend at the time] and I guess she lied cause she later told me it really bothered her that me&him are going out. he’s now my boyfriend of 3 months and my so called best friend hates me, she doesn’t talk to me like at all, if she does she’s talking about her “new friends” and how better they are then me. It still really hurts me that I hurt her like that but if she just tol me from the beginiing it botherd her then I would stop liking him&flirting with him. I really miss her. so just do what you feel is best, if you don’t mind risking your friendship, then go ahead, she also said to me chicks before dicks too. w.e really, do what you feel is best.

Answer #4

thanks.. I was really hoping that yall wouldnt say that but I guess deep down I knew thats how it should be.
But does it make a difference if they only had a “thing” for like a week. They never even went on a real date or kissed. I think he hugged her like twice but she just has a lot of trouble letting go… And what if she does say shes fine with me dating him?? Should I still go for it?? I just really like this guy aand I want to make it work but I would never risk losing my best friend. This sucks :(

Answer #5

chicks before di*ks

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