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Does the pain go away?

My boyfriend tried to finger me and it hurt a lot so I told him to stop instantly, then when we tried to have sex it was even worse (though he barely went in at all) then I recently had a pelvic exam and the tool used was maybe half the size of my boyfriend and I was in absolute agony, how long will it take for this to subside? I know if having that small tool hurt then when he tries it will be twice as bad so I am scared to try again. Anything we can do to help this? How many times do you think it will take to become pleasurable?

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Answer #1

Being scared and tense is the problem, it will make you tense up a lot and you won’t get any pleasure or be able to get him in you. You were probably nervous at the exam too, as it is not the nicest situation to be in, and so it hurt you.

Focus on creating a relaxing environment for the two of you and then spend a lot of time kissing and just touching externally. Get your boyfriend to give you oral if he can as hopefully this will help you relax, and just breathe deeply. Do not think about the pain, try to think about the fact that you can do this, and want to, and you trust him not to hurt you.

Remember, a baby can come out of there, so he can fit in.

When you feel ready (take as long as you need, you should not feel you have to rush anything), then get him to use some lube and just use one finger in you as well as rubbing your clitoris. Then work up to two fingers and as many as you feel comfortable with. In much the same way, work your way up to sex. Once he has fingered you successfully a few times then go from kissing, to that, to full sex, again using plenty of lube.

Relaxation is really the key, so explain your concerns to your boyfriend and take it slow. Once you relax you will be able to have sex, and that is when it will start to feel really good.

Answer #2

the furst time usaly hurts and it can e made a whole lot worce if you’re tence. after that sex is sposed to get better

Answer #3

maybe you should finger yourself aliitle bit. just to make it alittle less tight and more loose so you and your boyfriend can finally get down to business! aha

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