Does he want to be friends with benefits?

I met this guy a few years back, at the time he was married and I was single. He wanted a friends with benefits kind of thing. I could never think of being with someone that is married, yet alone has a child. So I told him my reasonings and told him I couldn’t do that. We stayed friends and would talk everyday over the phone, but never saw each other. I ended up finding someone about a year later and I told him we couldnt talk anymore because of the sweet little names he would call me. We stopped talking all together for almost 3 years.

My boyfriend and I ended up breaking up and about two months later I found my old friend on myspace. Him and I started talking again. I came to find that he had finally got a divorce. He wanted to see me right away, but I was very nervous for some reason. So I waited a couple weeks and came up with every excuse I could think of when he asked to meet up.

One night I got up the courage to go out with him. We ended up going to his house and had a few drinks while watching some movies, instead of going out for drinks. I was totally nervous around him the whole night and I dont know why. During the last movie he held my hand and I thought it was kind of cute. We ended up sleeping together that night. I wasn’t quite sure what his intensions were, so after sex I went to put my clothes on and he had asked me to get in the bed with him. He held me and we cuddled. On the ride home he held my hand and during a slow song he squeezed my hand and smiled. We kissed goodnight and he had told me he would call me when he got home. He did and I had told him I was tired and was going to get some sleep. Before we hung up he had asked if I could call him tomorrow morning to wake him up, because his alarm clock wasn’t working. (which I think was just a way to make me call him the next day.)

We talked everyday for the next couple weeks. He would call me and ask me what I was doing and would tell me what he had done so far in his day and where he was at that time and what he was goign to do, it really felt like he was checking in with me. It started to scare me because I had just got out of a long relationship and I was feeling like I was in another, and I did not want that. I just wanted the friends with benefits.

For some reason, about a week later the calling all the time stopped, he didn’t check in with me anymore. Which was what I wanted, or so I had thought. I realized like I had liked the checking in with me and I liked knowing what he was doing all the time. I would hear from him a couple times a week, but not nearly as much as I was used to.

We have seen each other about 4 times, twice we have had sex. Once he came over my friends for dinner. The next nigh we went out he picked me up and we ended up at the beach. I thought he wanted to go to the beach to get some. We ended up just talking, he gave me a massage and just watched the stairs. It was a beautiful night out and I had a really good time.

We have never talked about what he wants or what I want from this, and im starting to get kind of confused because the last two nights we did not hook up. I know I should talk to him, but im having a hard time brining it up, plus im really enjoying our time together and I dont want to ruien anything. I have had one friend with benefits partner before, but it was talked about by him because he didnt want to get into a relationship. I have heard his views on relationships and I don’t think he wants one.

Im trying to figure out if this man wants a friends with benefits thing with me or not. At first that was all I wanted, but im starting to have other feelings for him and now im not sure what I want.