Should we tell our Mom to leave our Dad?

you may love your dad but somtimes u have to let go, if he treats you bad, that might afect your teenhood and your adulthood, ur teenage years are very delecate cause it detemins what your going to be like as an adult, and i was told grwing up alwyas put yourself first no matter how hard it is to let go, cause it may hurt now but if you carrry on it will hurt later, and this may get worse, it may turn into domestic voilence, so if its going to damage you or your life in anyway personaly i wud say yes into leaving him, but if u can heal the situtation and make things better, say if they get marrige counciling, but its all up to you im just here to help, i hope you guys can make a right disition that will benefit you, always rember put yourself first and never suffer for anybody cause you only live once and you dont want to suffer through it good luck xxx

The best thing is to pray for your dad. My mom used to be a really mean lady. I prayed for her for years and and finally she started showing kindness. You dad is probably going through a lot of things that you may not understand yet. Someone stated earlier though that it’s between your mom and dad. She needs to make the decision. It’s her job to work it out. Maybe spiritual counseling would help your mom and dad.

That would be a very difficult answer to give. I think that your mom might have misstepped in asking you to decide the outcome of their relationship. I think its wise to give imput about how you feel your family relationships are effected by the arguments and how you feel about your relationships with your mom and your dad separately and as a parental unit. However, their relationship, arguments, hurt feelings, anger management, etc. should be things that they go over. They should be the ones that decide what is good for them individually and as a married couple. I think the best thing that your parents could do is get counseling. There they could get a (hopefully) unbiased look into their marriage its faults and strengths. And from there decide if they can make the relationship work or if it would be better for all parties to separate.

Its good that you have such an open relationship with your mom that she trusts you to give her your honest opinion of what you think she should do. I hope that works both ways and you are able to tell her how you feel about your relationship with her and with your dad and how it effects you. If you haven’t already, I think you should let her know that you will support her decision whatever it may be, but that you will not put up with being subjected to constant bickering or verbal abuse. That situation is not good for anyone. Changes need to be made. I think you can help her come to her own conclusion on what she needs to do to make her life happier not to mention the lives of her children and even the life of her husband.

kids should never get in the middle of parents divorcing… here is a few little tips I got from my lawyer about kids and divorce…

The Children’s Bill of RIGHTS!!!

  All children shall enjoy the following inalienable rights:

1. The right to be treated as important human beings, with unique feelings, ideas and desires and not as a source of argument between parents.

2. The right to a sense of security and belonging derived from a loving and nurturing environment which shelters them from harm.

3. The right to a continuing relationship with both parents and the freedom to receive love from and express love for both.

4. The right to “listening” parents.

5. The right to express love and affection for each parent without having to stifle that love because of fear of disapproval by the other parent.

6. The right to grow and flourish in an atmosphere free of exploitation, abuse and neglect.

7. The right to know that their parents’ decision to divorce is not their responsibility and that they will still be able to live with each parent.

8. The right to continuing care and guidance from both parents where they can be educated in mind, nourished in spirit, and developed in body, in an environment of unconditional love.

9. The right to honest answers to questions about changing family relationships.

10. The right to know and appreciate what is good in each parent without one parent degrading the other.

11. The right to have a relaxed, secure relationship with both parents without being placed in a position to manipulate one parent against the other.

12. The right to have one parent not undermine time with the other parent by suggesting tempting alternatives or by threatening to withhold activities with the other parents as a punishment for the children’s wrongdoing.

13. The right to be able to experience regular and consistent parental contact and the right to know the reason for not having regular contact.

14. The right to be a kid and to be insulated from the conflict and problems of parents.

15. The right to be taught, according to their developmental levels, to understand values, to assume responsibility for their actions, and to cope with the just consequences of their choices.

16. The right to be able to participate in their own destiny.

Im sorry to hear that too. every sinse i was little all i can remember is my mom and dad arguing. My dad can get very aggressive and i was always in tears with my brother and sister. Even now im 18 he still argues with everyone in the house. i hate it and i have told my mom many times that she should leave him. i think you should live a happy life and you should do what ever it takes to get the life u really want xx

I’m Against divorce for reasons other than adultery but sometime you just got to go. . . . And may I ask what the arguement was about. . . you can funmail me if you want. I may better understand the problem if I know it.

It is her job in a marriage to communicate with her mate - if there’s a problem, ‘they’ must work it out - the decision shouldn’t be put on you and your sisters shoulders - they need to talk and the verbal abuse to cease - to or not to divorce must be your Mom’s decision…I wish you all the best and hope things will change for the better soon.

well i know what your going through b/c my mom married a man who treated me and my sister like dogs…and I desperatly wanted her to leave him and I begged and begged but she never would!!!I lived in HELL…If you really want her to leave him tell her. I wish to god my mom would have left it up to me…But she didn’t so I had to live it!!And my personally opinion F**K a warning..verbal nor physical abuse will stop…it will continue!!

I think you should give him one last warning before throwing him off the window.

:)