How can I ask my cousin if she is gay without offending her?

Well I agree with carol in the sense that it’s not a crime. Because if she is gay then she wouldn’t be offended(like carol said) but if she’s not then she probly would be offended that you asked. Anyway just try to bring it up in a casual conversation when the opportunity is there.

Yeah i just dont want to offend her if she isnt and she is the type of person that would hold a grudge against me for a long time

that is definitely a difficult subject to bring up. honestly, the best thing to do it to wait for it to come up in a conversation. until then, you shouldn’t really ask her because it can be uncomfortable. maybe instead of flat out asking if shes gay, instead, ask her who she has a crush on or what celebrity she thinks is the best looking.

I would say just be straight-forward and honest. It’s a tough situation to deal with and being blunt isn’t necessarily being mean.

Yeah that is what im probably going to do and ive asked her if she likes any guys and shes always like ew no and if i say omg dont you think hes hot she will be like no and im like okk

I don’t think you should ask. When she is ready to tell people she will and I’m sure you will be one of the first to know. Plus it’s normal being gay so it isn’t that bad however, my friend is a girl and she hates boys and doesn’t like the thought of them and shes 16. I don’t think she’s gay but she might be … some people say she is but I will never ask her only when she wants to tell me or it isn’t true

well my older sister acted the same when i pointed out guys i thought were hot. She was repulsed by men but she wasnt gay just naive and didnt want a relationship with anyone

I personally wouldn’t bring it up. If you ask someone their sexual orientation and they aren’t ready to share it, they most likely will not give an honest answer because they’re worried of how your reaction will be. If or when she’s ready, she’ll come to you.

Keep in mind, though, that even straight people can be picky on who they find attractive. Just because she isn’t fond of the same guys you think are ‘hot’, it doesn’t mean that she doesn’t like any guys at all. Some people would rather just not get into relationships.

You can talk to her about which stars you like and which one is sooo cute that you’d date him if you had the chance. And then you can just say that you think that some female star you like is also very cute and that you’d consider turning bisexual if she ever asked you about a date.

So if your cousin is not homosexual, she’ll not be offended in any way. And if she is homosexual, then it’s her choice wether she tells you or not. I mean, if she is homo but she doesn’t want you to know, she can just say “Oh I think that Jacob is cuter than Edward”. Or if she is homo and doesn’t mind telling, she can tell you that she doesn’t like them boys, but she’d date Miley if she was interested.

im not bi lol

yeah, sure Neither am I. But some girls are really cute and I wouldn’t be sure that I’m not bi for… at least a couple of seconds… if they asked me for a date. And if you tell your cousin that you thought about becoming bisexual for a moment when you first saw a picture of [whoever], then maybe she’ll know that you believe homosexuality to be acceptable.

That would make it easier for her to tell you if she really is. So she won’t fear your reaction in case she decides to come out.