Do you think it's wrong that my grandfather is taking my deceased father's clothes without asking?

Um, I dont think it wrong personally, I mean there just clothing.. But if this bothers you maybe you should tell him how you feel about it..

He probably figures that you won’t mind since it was his son, but yes he shoud ask first. I’m sorry about your dad.

not me. But my mom finds it disrespectful.

Well, tell her she needs to talk to him then.. Her not saying anything is doing what to help the situation?

no thats my moms dad. My fathers dad died before iI was. My moms dad lives with us. And he is takin my dads clothes. But he passed away in july. 2011

she did talk to him couplewe weeks ago im just askin for opinipns.

it is but if it was his family as well he might be upset about the loss and wanting them for comfort.

Casey, I’m sorry for your loss. I understand - I lost my dad when I was 10, and it’s a tough thing to deal with. Not only for the children, but for our mothers.

The thing is, your mother seems to be holding on to these material things as though they are the only links that still bind her to your father and she really needs to learn to let go. They are only clothes. They are not your father and they don’t possess some sort of spiritual connection to him that will be severed if she gets rid of the clothing. If anything, they are a constant reminder of what was lost.

Your mother needs to take these clothes and donate them or give them away, once and for all. Once they are gone, she can finally learn to stop dwelling on what was lost and start remembering what she had - replace the bad memories with good ones. I know you’re only 15, and your mother probably won’t listen to you, so maybe you can speak to another adult family member about this and have them convince your mother to seek grief therapy, because it’s been a year, and she’s still in mourning.

‘THEY’ need to have an adult conversation and come to an understanding….