How could I convince my boyfriend from California to let me go down there and see him over spring break?

He says he really loves me and really wants to see me but he doesnt want me to travel so far because it is dangerous and he doesnt want to have to tell his parents. Its been 2 years though and i have enough money to get down there. I would schedule another time but he doesnt have a life besides video games and yugioh cards so i honestly doubt he is busy… idk x.x

If I’m being honest with you, after two years, he seriously should be prepared to tell his parents.. He also should be wanting to see you. o.O To me, him not wanting you to go down there seems extremely suspicious. He should be excited for you to visit.

When it comes down to it, I’d explain my feelings to him about it. I’d probably say something like..

“It makes me feel really sad that you do not want me coming down there for spring break. When you say that you don’t want me down there because of your parents or other things, it makes me feel like you do not want me to visit at all. I have the time and the money, so I’d really like come down there.”

If he refuses to let me after sharing my feelings, I think I’d probably take a step back to think things through. After 2 years, you should not need to convince someone that you love to let you visit..

Why would you have to convince him? Unless he has something to hide.

well its kind of complicated because im a minor and he is an adult… but idk maybe you are right

just tell him you miss him and would love to spend time with him.and get dose of this california life style

The age difference is hard to deal with. By law, he, as an adult, may not consider you anything more than a friend, but that obviously isn’t the case. While you must like him a lot, and he must like you, if you’ve been together this long, I figure it’s worth the wait until you’re 18. I know it’s hard, I tried doing it. To be honest, in the end my boyfriend just said, “I don’t care,” and came to visit anyway, but you have to keep in mind that this is his legal life you’re dealing with. Forcing yourself on him could cause legitimate problems, and you don’t know how the parents might react to your sudden appearance, especially if you’re a minor. If you two end up doing things that people who have been together that long want to do, he can be charged with statutory ra.pe. Your parents can press charges even if you don’t want to, because you’re still a minor. You have to let him make the decision, because it’s his life on the line, not yours. Talk to him about it. Ask if it’s the age difference that makes it hard for him to let you come visit. You’ll feel better about it afterward, even if it only ends in deciding to visit when you turn eighteen.

Unintentional pun in there!

agreed