How can I get some control back in my relationship?

Yea I have. A few times. I feel like taking all the cords away from his computer and xbox. I have to treat him like a child most of the time to get anything through. Talking only works for a little while. He does pay attention to me for a day or two but then goes right back to the old routine. And if I bring it up again he just calls me needy and brushes it off.

if treating him like a child will get you the results that you need, then you lock up his games and xbox, and tell him when i see change in you, then you can have them back. a friend of my sister was dealing with the same thing, execpt hers was worse, her husband,s phone would ring in the middle of the night and he would say something like “ i dont know this number” but it rang every night at around the same time, so one day she woke up in the middle of the night took out his sim card and tore it into pieces. so sometimes you need to do something like this in order to see some change, so i would encourage you to be a lil mean and take away his xbox.

He gets really super pissy when I do that. Takes me on the whole guilt trip thing with the “ I work hard all day and I just want to relax when I get home” or “ you don’t work so keeping this place clean is your job”and when I bring up him not paying attention to me he always comes back with a bunch of nonsence about how he feels like he does and to stop being so needy.

I think you’re with the wrong man. You can try counseling just so you can say “I tried to fix it”, but I do not think you will ever be happy with him since he is never going to change. I’m guessing he has always been this way ever since you met him. The next time you go looking for a man look for all those bad signs and run away when you see them. In general … there’s no fixing a man. You have to find one the way you want him. Good luck.

you have to train him lol. Girls have been training us guys for years. Use sex to control him. It’s the time tested method.

counseling could work, or do what i would do which probably isnt something you might want to do just a warning. my grandma threatens to beat my grandfather with the pan if he doenst do something she wants him to do. not doing things he should help out with such as doing the dishes, his laundry, and cooking him his food then once he gets mad at you for not doing it my grandmother usaully yells at my grandfather to do it if he doesn’t like the way she does things. you could leave him for awhile a week, a month who knows and just go to the spa. you could also tell him that things aren’t working and you’re sick of it and that you’re gonna leave him and if things you kidding then actually leave and take the dog with you or throw all of is crap outside. oh! you could also sale one important item of his every week. no i’m kidding its not gonna work. he really isnt worth your time unless you’re taking revenge on him.

buy a gun point it at him with a really big knife