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Is he taking this too seriously?

My boyfriend who i love to death and have been dating for almost 7 months told me that he has the perfect idea on what to get me for my birthday …..which is in December by the way so we would be going out for 1 year and 2 months but the point is I was like oh yeah really what, and he was like i love you more than anything in the world and i wanna be with you for the rest of my life, and i am going to give you something to show that and i asked what and he told me that he wanted to get me a promise ring, which is sweet and all, and probably wont happen anyways but i don’t think he understands, at this moment he wants to be with me forever but things change and we still have a long life ahead of both of us……were still young real young

What should I do about this? Every time i mention that we could possible end up breaking up he almost cries or looks like he is going to cry WHAT DO I DO

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Answer #1

It’s not bad because committed. If your worried hun, then it probably isnt love (I’m sorry, dont get mad but its the truth) It’s a first love thing. I have 2 commitment rings to stay with my boyfriend and i’m not worried about being with him for the rest of my life i’d love it. Your boyfriend is clinging to you because your all he’s got. He’s probably stopped going to friends houses and spent his time devoted to you. Give him a little credit, but if you dont accept the ring it might mean a break up. Dont take the ring if you have any doubts. I got my first ring 1 month into my relationship. It was AMAZING and we’ve been together for almost a year.

Answer #2

He is a clinger, he has a very optimistic view on love, as to where you are mature in that department. He may have not had many girls like you, and there is something about you that makes him happy, makes him feel like he could spend his life with you.

But when reality strikes in you are right, people DO change and feelings do fade. We don’t know what the future holds for us, so it is best to just live for the day, and focus on the time at hand. Try and explain that to him, explain that anything could happen. Just let him know that right now at this moment, that you are with him, and you love him and thats what matters most.

Good luck

Answer #3

Dear This, If you were my daughter I would tell her to start distanceing herself away from the boy. It is obvious that you ( right now) don’t feel that same connection that he wants you to feel. Maybe ease in the idea that you don’t have the same feelings as he does. This is the best way to handle this one….Be honest without being real brutal. You can still be friends etc.. It will be alittle uncomfortable for you doing this, but it is best for you and him. Still be friends because one day you may see that infact you really have something with this boy. He was/is everything you want in a spouse etc.. Familycoach

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