christain questions about after my moms death

Your mother raised a very good, kind and loving daughter. She must have been very proud of you. It is completely normal for you to cry and miss your mom. Have your birthday, after all, that is the day your mom gave birth to you. She celebrated when you were born, so continue that and celebrate the fact that she gave birth to you on that day. Your birthday will always be the special gift that she gave you. She would want you to have a party. But if you don’t feel like having something, then don’t. She would respect and understand that. And if you feel like it, say a little something about her on your special day. She was a good mom because she raised such a good daughter. I am not christian, I am jewish…but no matter the faith…we can all try to help you during this sad time in your life.

is it wrong for me to still cry and be upset when my mom died april 5 2009?

…nope… its normal…

is it wrong or a sin to not want to celebrate my b-day even though im 13 going on 14?

…nope… celebrating birthdays isn’t a requirement…

what are normal reactions to still be having and what are nonnormal reactions to still b having?

…its been less than two months… its likely you’ll be dealing with it quite a bit longer.

its not wrong to stil be upset. I would google “teen parent death support groups” and see what comes up, so you can choose one that fits your needs. you could also talk to a counselor.

God bless you honey…((hugs)) It is very good to be able to have others to talk with during and after the death of a loved one, esp. a mom, as they are usually very close to their children. If any of us can be a help, we are more than willing to do so, just let us know what we can do. And please feel free to discuss whatever you need to. There are many caring people on here who will be glad to be there for you.

Blessings…and hey, Happy Birthday!!!

My dad died almost 20 years ago, still I think about him often. You are honoring her memory, there is nothing wrong with that no matter how many years have passed.

It’s not a sin to celebrate your 14th birthday at all,you should have fun. It’s not wrong for you to still cry after your moms death,it’s very normal,whoever told you it was,that was very wrong of them. I’m not sure about the 3rd question.

April was not that long ago, the loss of a family member will take time to heal, it’s not a sin to not want to celebrate, just give yourself time, get someone to pray with you, there are organizations that are for youth just like you try to find one, maybe you’ll make new friends who will understand what your going through, hold tight try to remember happy things! my prayers are with you. :)

its normal. death is a horrible thing, you can’t just forget the person you loved. just remeber that your mom would want you to be happy on your birthday, try not to think about her death so much as all of the happy times you had together. but remembering your mom and mourning her death is definately not a sin.