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My son will turn four years next year February.I would wish to have two children but I dont know why,I have this fear of getting another one now.This because of the work involved to raise a young one.Will I ever feel ready to bare another one?You see I am this kind who believes in giving my all in whatever I do. My friends tell me, that it is not wise to space children for more than three years. What is your take on this?

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Answer #1

I can tell you the benefits of having them closer together…my youngest was born exactly 3 years and 19 days after my oldest. My middle son was born 13 months and 3 days after the oldest. My 3 kids were all born within 3 years. They were all in diapers together, the two oldest learned a lot of things at the same time. My boys (my oldest two) are extremely close. Once I got my youngest out of diapers I never have to buy them again…yeah!! Since they’re all close in age then can basically do the same kind of things (with some exceptions for the oldest). The boys wear the same size clothes and like the same toys.

Now the down side…they fight…a lot. I never got the chance to devote myself fully to just one baby at a time. My oldest was 5 months old when I found out the next one was on the way. I feel like I cheated them out of their “baby days”. Sometimes I wish that things would of happened differently and they would be farther apart but I wouldn’t trade them for anything.

Do what you want, when you’re ready you’ll know. My best friend has 3 kids…the oldest is 11, the middle one is 9 and the youngest is only 3. You’re the mother, have them when you think you’re ready.

Answer #2

Some people feel they arnt ever ready to have another until it happens, & when it does you will be ready sometimes when you have 2 the second time around is easier because you know what to do. There is always a way to make it threw the situation.

Answer #3

have another one when your ready because it doesnt really matter my sister and I are good friends and she is 4 and im 14. So when ever your ready would be the best time.

Answer #4

hey, take your time. my brother and I are nine years apart (hes six, im fifteen) and he really is my bestfriend.

you’ll have another kid when you’re ready!

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