Child sexual experience

I am also sorry to hear of your pain. And I agree with a lot of what has been said already, but wanted to add this thought.

In life you have ‘circles’ of confidence. The first or innermost circle is yourself. After that is your family because like them or not, they will always be your family. Starting with these inner circles you need to seek comfort and resolution with what you went through. Even if you absolutely know your boyfriend is ‘the one’ there is no need to go to him (yet) with this before you work through the issues with yourself and your family, especially yourself. I don’t know what the local laws are where you are from, but where I am from any age person can seek professional medical or mental health assistance without their parents knowing. If this is the only comfortable way for you at the start then by all means do it. If you try and come to terms with what happened outside of your inner and most important circles first, I guarantee it will come back on you in the future in some way.

Do not go through your life in denial, and don’t think that just because a boyfriend was very understanding when you opened up to him, or you got great advice on the internet that made you feel better, that you are mentally or emotionally healed ( It doesn’t work that way). As soon as the boyfriend leaves you, or a husband divorces you, then not only will you have that pain to deal with, but all your past pain will come flooding back again.

Seek professional help. There is no shame in that.

All the best,

I am vary sorry for what happened to you its something no one should have to go though, It is currently estimated that one-third of all children are sexually abused before the age of 18. So it happens to tons of people but you shouldn’t be embarrassed about it. But also let your boyfriend know the reason why you don’t let him inside of you and if he’s not understanding about it he’s not worth it. But at some point you have to get over it and not let it haunt you, because you have a life to you don’t need to keep letting your mind drift back to what happened. It might takes some work but learn to let it go and enjoy the rest of your life ~Alessa

u have 2 tell your parents explain 2 them the way you did here tell them you didnt no it was anything bad tell them it hurts you now that you do no and if your parents dont want 2 call 4 help 4 what happened 2 u then call police and tell them what happened 2 u and they will get the right help 4 u

I no how it feels 2 b taken advantage of just because you were unable 2 handle situations due 2 lack of knowledge of the situation

hoping 4 the best outcome 4 u

I’m really sorry to hear. It’s very messed up that adults would do that, but sadly, it does happen and you’re not the only one it has happened to. Just know it’s not your fault.

You should really tell somebody you trust the entire story- everything you can remember. Trust me, it will be off your conscience and you’ll feel so much better about it.

I told my boyfriend what happened to me. I was also five… Now I hardly ever think about it. I’m just glad I got it off my chest after thirteen years. :]

Best of luck to you. x

Well you’re only 13, so I honestly dont think you should be worrying about having sex with your boyfriend anyways.

You need to talk to someone, I dont know where you are but there are probably child abuse hotlines you can contact.

This site has an online chat with people who can talk to you about this stuff http://www.rainn.org/

I know it is hard, but you need to talk about it so you can get over the shame you feel, it wasnt your fault. He was the adult. And I really think, if possible, you should try and get counseling. Even if you dont want to tell your parents exactly what happened.