Can I have a guys point of view, I'm confused?

I go on this amazing date with this guy who acts totally nuts over me. We go for a walk in the park, talk about our future, kiss, hold hands, cuddle. We had an instant chemistry. He told me he hasn’t had a girlfriend in almost 10 years and looks forward to us being together. I really like him.

The thing is, since the date, 3 days ago, he hasn’t responded to my email, text, let me go from the phone so he could do laundry (come on right?). I called him today to wish him a happy birthday, left a message saying I would like to spend some time with him, and he didn’t even call me back. I don’t understand what’s going on. A guy who hasn’t had sex in 10 years would normally jump on the chance to have girlfriend with a regular sex routine. Am I right?

Answer #1

Thank you for your help.

No he didn’t get in my pants, but I didn’t take the option away in maybe a 2nd or 3rd date. He told me he wants nothing more than to be married and have children. He came off a little desperate. We actually knew each other from high school and have the same circle of friends. I’m just confused. I hope you’re right and it’s option 1.

Answer #2

Some guys would, some guys would run the other way.

I think the majority of guys like being a relationship where sex is frequesnt, but some guys absolutely can’t stand being with the same girl over and over. It’s nothing against the girl, it’s that all they can think about is all the other girls they’re missing out on. Hate us for this if you want, but it’s not our fault, it’s genetic.

Still, if the date when as good as you believe it did, there’s only so many possibilities.

1: He’s been busy with friends, life, work, etc. He’s like me, and may only check his email once a week. When he gets a text from someone, he makes a mental to note to reply after he finishes what he’s doing, then forgets later. He checks his answering machine about as often as he checks his email. The only way youre gonna know if this is the kind of guy he is, is to confront him. If you know where he lives, go there, and ask him why he hasn’t replied to your email. Then, ask him why he hasn’t replied to your texts. Then, ask him why he never returned your call. Don’t be afraid to put him on the spot. You’ll find out a lot more about his personality by doing this. If you don’t know where he lives, call him a time or two more, then give up. He’s not worth it, and in the future, don’t give him another chance.

2: You scared him away. Even though you thought everything was going well, you were actually putting way to much pressure on him way to quick. He’s the kind of guy who hates commitment, and likes to keep things relaxed. If this is the kind of guy he is, you’re not going to get anymore out of him than what you already have, and you’re only gonna cause yourself pain by chasing someone who doesn’t want you.

3: He’s a player. He only wanted to get into your pants. I don’t know if he suceeded or not. Either way, you’re not going to hear from him again until he wants to get into your pants again (or try to) If all you’re looking for is sex, then by all means, call him whenever you got a minute. It can’t hurt, right?

For your sake, I hope it’s option 1. Hope this helped :)

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