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Should I (ever) get back with my ex-boyfriend?

I took a quiz on this and it said “Absolutely! Run to his/her house NOW and tell them that you need em back in your life because you know you can’t live without him/her. You guys are meant to be.” Have you ever had a gut in feeling in life? I get this sometimes…like one time, I had a gut feeling when I was walking into Walgreens to get the day-after pill that the woman who took my senior pictures would be in there. I had forgotten about her, yet for some reason, before entering the building I thought she would be in that Walgreens. She was.

Lately, for some reason, I felt that God was preparing me for a break-up. I was feeling less attached to my partner.

He ended up breaking up with me out of the blue. I had slept with another guy during our other break-up last October and I’ve always felt sick about that mistake and had to go to counseling for it because it went against my morals and religion. He knew that.

I had broken up with him last October because I think he threw a party to get with someone else. Guys tell me that’s what they would have done if they weren’t such a faithful guy.

I think he did actually break up with me because I slept with that other guy and he’s being immature about it. We had only been with each other, so I can understand the pain.

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Answer #1

You’re taking relationship advice from a quiz, do you seriously think that’s a reliable source to get things from or are you using that as a reason to get back with him? Here’s the skinny, do you want to be with him or not? That’s the only thing you need to ask yourself, do you see yourself with him, do you miss him when he’s not there, yada yada and so on.

You probably already knew the answer all along but what I find interesting is that you broke up with him in October on an assumption that he threw a party for another girl but it doesn’t seem as though you ever actually addressed that with him personally. Did you? Because what you did afterwards, having sex with someone else, really kind of dims down whatever it was that he did and he isn’t being immature about it. How would you want him to feel anyway? Sex is vital to a relationship and it makes and breaks them in many ways possible. You say you understand the pain yet you are calling him immature about it.

Let’s look at what we have here, you broke up with him on assumption and you haven’t given information to clarify otherwise, you slept with someone else during your break up with him and he took you back, and then he breaks up with you as you start feeling yourself being not so into him. Yet here you are writing this about him so maybe you might want him back I dunno. Thing is though… Based on just this, I really don’t know if you should get him back really.

Answer #2

Here’s some information about us in case it helps: He’s 22, I’m 21. We have been dating for four years.

The reason I had broken up with him is because he threw that party and didn’t invite me. He asked me not to come and told me there would be no girls there. His friend ended up inviting his fling and her girlfriend came along.

Answer #3

He’s a habitual liar so we do have trust issues. That’s another reason we broke up. He said I can’t trust him, but I was just like that’s because I have reasons not trust you. Whenever I argue with him it’s almost like he believes his own lies because his counter arguments don’t make sense. He said this relationship will never work out if there’s no trust and that it’s screwed up. But i tell him he said that he was trying to earn my trust back.

Back to the party: Those girls went in the hot-tub with them and they were in their shirts, so obviously they were see through. I confronted him on this and he told me they weren’t see-through. Obviously they were.

Yeah, you’re right, having sex with that guy does kind of dim down what he did but he has done SO many things throughout the relationship that weren’t right. I finally had a bad attitude after that last time. I thought if no guys are going to respect me for respecting myself, then why should I?

Answer #4

I’m sorry but who ever said that they can’t live without someone has made a fool out of themselves!

You can and people do live without …. simple as that. And as far as your relationship with this guy goes, he doesn’t seem to be ready for a serious one. Either that or, he’s simply tired of you. I’m sorry but that’s how I see it.

ANY guy who throws a party and DOES NOT invite HIS girlfriend is up to no good. I’m sure you’re slowly realizing that.

Answer #5

I am slowly realizing that…which sucks :(

Answer #6

Just let it go.

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