How to explain to my Mom that I want birth control?

My mom and I have this talk like every few months bout people having sex before marraige and crap & getting pregnant. well each and every time she says “ personally im the type of parent who will get you birth control if your going to have sex”. heres the problem. I’m pretty sure that I prollie wont wait till im married..I want to, but with the world we live in its kinda tough. so I want birthcontrol. but im afraid if I ask her she’ll think imma just go out and have wild sex with anyone. NO not the case. I just want it beucz I want my first time to be sponatenous. and I dont feel comfortable without him using protection & me taking birth control. I dont know how to tell my mom that I just want the birthcontrol on board in my system and everything just in case, because im not planning to go & do stuff. you know what I mean?? sry if I was confusing. btw im 16

Answer #1

I AM IN THE SAME SPOT your IN..IM KINDA SCARED TO TAWK TO MY PARENTS ABOUT IT SO I AM GOING TO TALK TO MY AUNTIE BECAUSE ME AND HER IS REALLY CLOSE BUT THE BEST THING FOR YOU TO DO IS JUST SIT YOU PARENTS DOWN AND SAY LOOK MOM OR DAD IM GETTING OLDER AND I THINK I AM READY FOR BIRTH CONTROL I HAVE NOT HAD SEX YET BUT WHEN THE TIME COMES I WANT TO KNOW THAT I DONT HAVE TO WRRY ABOUT GETTING PREGANANT AT MY AGE.

Answer #2

Dear johnnydepp_lovesme, Make an appointment with your health clinic. They will talk with you about your options for birth control. Your mother does not have to know that you have been there to see them. I don’t condone doing this behind your parents back but at 16 you need to have the answers you are looking for and the clinics are usually free. Sue…good luck

Answer #3

when you find the one that you want to have sex with then ask and say your ready can I get on birth control when I asked my dad since I dont know my mom I thought he was going to be so mad instead he thanked me for asking and still tells me how proud he is that I asked you should just ask and even if you just want it now tell her that its just incase better to be safe then sorry

Answer #4

I just went to the doctor and asked for it and haven’t told my mum. I know she’d flip if she found the pill (so I keep it with me) because she’d think Im out having sex (which Im not). You’re 16 now so if you want contraception, then go for it, it’s your choice. Maybe your mum will be proud if you show you’re mature enough to do things for yourself. And the earlier you start taking the pill, the more you’ll get used to taking it and the routine and everything so when you do eventually have sex, you’ll be prepared.

Answer #5

go to planned parenthood they’ll give it to you. and your mother wont have to know about it

Answer #6

Hello, this is crazy because I just told my mom today. DO NOT go to plan parenthood and get it behind her back. TRUST ME. im 18 and I just told my mom today over the phone that I had sex with my boyfriend (of 4 months) and that we love eachother and we want to be safe. SHE WAS SOOO GLAD I TOLD HER!!! I was worried she was going to FREAK OUT but she pulled a 180 on me and it surprised me. your mom would rather you be honest and hear it from you than find birth control in your purse. she’ll think you didnt trust her. it went well for me, I was scared out of my mind but it worked out great, im going to the doctors to get it tomorrow! she even told me that she loved me and shes proud of me. it will strengthen your relationship when she knows you want to be honest with her! plus I feel sooo much better that its out in the open now. and she promised not to tell my dad and keep it between us, which I love. TELL YOUR MOM! good luck!

Answer #7

well if you really want birth control you will sit down with your mom or parent. and just start talking bout pregnancy then ask her bout birth control and bout getting it. just say if I ever wanted to have sex I will be safe and prevent pregnancy. but you still can get pregnant by using it. and I know im not that much of help casue im 15 and I just plain and simple asked my mom for it.

xoxo christina

Answer #8

First of all, I want to CONGRATULATE you for being a responsible 16 year old! YAY for birth control! haha.

Anyways, you can get it from Planned Parenthood for free, or other health clinics without your parents knowing. But if your mom really said that, then I would just go ahead and tell her you want it. Did you know that the pill also does wonders for your skin complexion? Generally, the pill does all kinds of wonderful things aside from keeping you from getting pregnant, so come up with other ideas to tell your mom! But yeah, if you really really don’t want to tell her, go to a clinic.

Answer #9

Hey I would just tell her how you are feeling and hope she understands it sounds to me from whaat you said that she would understand and wouldnt doubt you or anything just talk to her and be honest. I wish I could talk to my mom like you can yours I tried to talk to my mom bout getting on birth control 2 months ago and she freaked out and told me no.

Answer #10

ok so my mum happens to be paranoid at times. I’ve known my boyfriend for over a year and we’ve been happily together for 9 months. we had sex at our 7th month but I got a few scares since my period is irregular and I got mself sick with worry. I tried to talk to my mum about this but everytime she flips out and begges me not to do it until marriage or else she starts yelling. I think I have to go on the pill without her knowing just yet, im 18 btw, I will tell her later on, but atm I canot talk to her about it, im pretty sure shell loose respect to me. hon I love my mum but I cnt talk to her about my sex life just yet, if you can your blessed. if I were you tough id wait till I start being active since it has some side effects.

Answer #11

Well when I wanted/got birth control I went to my mom and just said mom can I go on birth control. If your mom is anything like mine, she will understand and talk to you about the situation. Just go to her and have a mom and daughter chat about why you want it and all of that.

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