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Ok, So like pretty much everybody I have a best friend.LOl. Ok, so she started hanging around this one girl. I noticed a change and how my friend has gotten like impatient and just rude to me. I think it was the other girl's fault that she was hanging out with that made her this way. One day she went to the water-park w/ her, then the day after spent the WHOLE day w/ her. she came back and that's when she started to act like that other girl! ok, so when she was gone the whole entire day w/ her and I called a bunch. I would have called less but I had no idea she was gone.The Whole day too . The next day which was Sunday, called me and asked if I was going to church w/ her. I like wasn't even ready and it started in 20 min. I was like no, I tried calling you yesterday but you never called be back at all, if you called me I might be going w/ u. (I wasn't yelling by the way) she was like srry and she said that at noon when it was over she was coming back and she'd hang out w/ me. 3 o click rolls by and she finally comes home! it was like 4:30 be4 she called me anyway. she was like oh sorry I was busy. She started to talk about that one girl and was like man she's not going to be going to my school anymore. She's going to a different one. MY so called best friend said: She's my best friend and I'm not going to see her as much because she's going to a different school!! She kept talking about her and stuff. I kept quiet and then she goes, Well, your my friend too it's just I've known her longer. Oh, but she didn't she actually knew me longer but no it didn't matter to her!! I got off the phone and I was so upset I actually cried. It's like imagine someone you love,like, or even your best friend telling you something similar to that?? Anyway, the next day she called me and wanted me to walk w/ her. So I decided that I was being foolish and acting immature. So we walk for like 5 min. and she starts talking about that one girl and stuff. She also starts complaining that's it's hot and she wants to tan. I couldn't stand her nagging so I said if you want to go that bad then it's fine go. She goes thankx In a half hour I'll call you and we can walk more!! I go ok! So an hour rolls by and I call her. She answers and goes oops srry I 4got to call u, but now I'm going out to dinner w/ my family I'll be back I'm two hours! SIX or SEVEN hours rolled by. After the 5th hour I gave up. So, now it's 2day. I felt like telling her I feel like u've changed but I couldn't. It felt like something was holing me back and stuff. She was telling me that she was going to be gone the whole day w/ her family and tommorow she'd hang out. I'm tired of waiting on her and I'm tired of how she's acting. After all I wrote, am I taking this the wrong way. Who's right me or her? should I talk to her? what should I say?? ANY advice for this heartbreaking situation would help.
Sorry, it's soo long XOXO, :) ~Bubblicious97~ :)
I dont think that yur taking this the wrong way, you have a right to feel angry and upset.
I think that yur friend is neglecting you and ditching you for the other girl for some reason. that girl seems like a bad influence on yur friend. she's changed for the worse and that's not a good thing. no matter what she tells you, this girls seems like bad news. maybe she, in a way, traded you in for this other girl.
I think you should ask your friend to come over soon, at a certain day and time (if she doesn;t come until late, use that as part of your talk) . tell her that you feel left out and neglected and that you feel that she has negatively changed. tell her how she's always blowing you off and coming late when you decide to hang out together. ask her wut;s going on between the girl and her.
just tell her the truth and let her know how you feel. try your best not to use a loud or angry voice, stay calm and make sure that she knows how bad you feel and how much you are in pain.
it seems to me that you 2 have known each other 4 a long time and have been through a lot. if she truely is your friend she'll understand and help to save your friendship.
good luck!=D message me if you need any more advice!
Let's Start off by BREATHING(in your nose and out your mouth...lol)
It ok..actually neither one of you is right, but you were wrong to keep letting her walk away or leave you without you saying anything to her about how you felt. Sometime friends need to be reminded that friendships are important and how they came about
Now I cant tell you what to say because that needs to come from the heart . But she was also wrong for forgeting about you and not considering you are feeling I think that you might want to be firm with her and have a heat to heart!!
No you're not taking it the wrong way, I think you're right, it seems like she has changed (from what I read ofcourse). You should defenitley talk to her about it and if SHE happens to take it the "wrong way" then babe she ain't your friend. If thats what happens I suggest finding a new one. In fact she doesn't seem like a real friend at all, trust me I had a similar experience, if you need any help then please Fun Mail me k?
I agree with djsweets. You need to have a sit down and tell her how shes made you feel. Talk about how you thought she was your best friend and that latly she hasn't been acting like it and that you feel like shes changed. I hope I helped. Good luck<3.
