Afraid my friend will rape me

We were never officially together, but one of my male friends and I were playing around some time ago. We kept it a secret as he was my best friend’s older brother. It was ok with me at first, but when he wanted to take it further from kissing I tried to say no (I wanted to end it with him anyway, but didn’t know how to say it), but he wouldn’t understand. I tried to simply tell him no, and when it didn’t work I tried to push him off, but I couldn’t because he was stronger than me. Everytime we were alone he would go farther than the time before. I was really scared to be alone with him, but I was even more scared to tell anyone because I didn’t think anyone would understand. We don’t see eatch other that often since we live in diferent citys, but his sister has been asking me to visit sometime soon, but I’m kinda scared of what he would do if we were alone again. Last time I was alone with him he went as far as to ejaculate on my underwear. I just don’t know what to do. I can’t tell his sister, but I don’t know what to do if he tries anything again. I’ve given up fighting against him since it’s meaningless. But I’m really scared to see him, what if he “rapes” me next time?

Do you understand what I’m feeling? Can anyone please help me?

Answer #1

Thank you. I’m glad that someone actually cared to answer this! ^^

Answer #2

I dont get how you end up with him alone.. if you go to visit your friend STAY with your friend..

Answer #3

Wow, how awful! But how can you honestly call this guy a friend? He is showing no respect for you or your wishes, your body, your wants or your needs. You need to tell someone. You shouldn’t even be alone with him. I understand that this is your best friends brother but he needs to understand that you mean business when you say no. He might feel that since you are still coming around and that the two of you end up in such an intimate proximity that you are playing… Please stay away from this guy. Let someone know. Much love and blessings…

Answer #4

How old are you and this guy. I know you said older. For you it might be a secret because “he’s your best friends brother”, but for him it might be “I’ll go to jail for statutory rape” Another thing… DON’T BE AFRAID TO SAY “NO”, STAND UP FOR YOURSELF, AND THE WAY YOU FEEL!!! “

Answer #5

For: questionable1: His room is next to the bathroom. I can’t help that I need to go there… xD

For dawnty: He’s 18 and I’m 17. I call him a friend because other than this he’s quite nice to me. We’ve know eatch other for 10 years now…

Answer #6

mellymoo, if you are going to the bathroom, LOCK THE DOOR!!! If this has happened more that once, it is obvious he is waiting to hear you go into the bathroom. CONTROL YOUR CIRCUMSTANCES!!! Thanking GOD that I have never been raped, but I know someone who has been… DO NOT willingly put your self in a bad situation…

Much Love & Blessings

Answer #7

For questionable1: His room is next to the bathroom

For dawnty: We’ve known eatch other for 10 years and he’s otherwise quite nice to me, in a friendly way. He’s 18 and I’m 17

Answer #8

Of course I care… I have twins your age (boy & girl), and would be devastated to know that one of them is struggling with something, especially of this magnitude!

Answer #9

oh… mellymoo, this is horrible.. I am so sorry… dont give in.. please..dont.. thats just what I did.. luckily I wasnt raped.. but no.. dont it is degrading yourself.. even if you cant fight him off.. try to hurt him cough cough you should know where would hurt him pretty badly ( and I am not talking about his face… I am talking about his HEAD) kick him.. bite him … scream… do somthing… its not fair… if you ever want to talk.. funmail me.. I hope you know that even though I dont know who you are.. I care that you are safe.. because I have been in this situation I know how it feels.. I know that sounds creepy.. and im not I just feel very strongly about these situatioins… oxoxoox

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