How would this affect our relationship?

This one girl and I have been going out for 3 months, and have known each other for 10. Before we started talking, her and my old friend had a thing for each other. I say “old friend” because we are no longer friends, obviously. Anyways, when they had a thing, she sent my old friend nudes. He showed me them, said her sister is hot, and wanted a threesome with them. How would it affect our relationship if I told her about all this? Like, I’ve wanted to tell her since day one, but I’ve never had the courage to. It’s one of those things that would feel nice to get off my chest. Any advice?

Answer #1

She would probably be pissed at your old friend for showing her nudes, but she would be dumb to be mad because of course he would show it to other people. She made the decision to send those pictures so she should have understood the consequences. Why do you want to tell her about the pictures? Do you feel guilty or something…??

Answer #2

Yes, I feel like I’m keeping something behind her back. She always wants me to be more open, even though I’m pretty open and honest with her.

Answer #3

I don’t know if it’s worth telling, it will just cause unneeded drama. If the topic comes up then tell her. But to just tell her “oh, by the way, my friend showed me those naked pics you took…” would be unnecessary. That’s just my opinion. I don’t know what good could

Answer #4

Could come out of telling her

Answer #5

Yeah, I wouldn’t just randomly say it. Lately she’s been trying to become friends with him again (just friends) and I think I would just say it, next time she brings it up. Saying something like “Well he doesn’t care about you because he showed me and a lot of people your nudes, and wanted a threesome with your sister.”

Answer #6

Okay now you’re just sabotaging a possible friendship… For what reason? Are you jealous of him?

Answer #7

Well I doubt “friendship” includes showing your friends nudes of you, and talking about how much you want to have sex with their sister. I just don’t want her losing interest in me, so yeah, I guess :/

Answer #8

I wouldn’t do that if I were you. Making decisions for her isn’t something you should be doing and it’s going to accomplish the exact opposite of what you wanted.

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