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What's some advice for someone with strict parents?

Okay, so here’s the deal. My parents are extremely strict on me. I wasn’t allowed to date until after I turned 18 and graduated high school (I actually went on my first date the day AFTER graduation). I’m 20 years old, graduating college in a few months, and have been dating a wonderful guy for about 2 years now. We have discussed it, and we’re both ready to take the next step and get married. The problem is, I don’t think my parents are going to react very fondly to this situation. They seem to believe that I’m some fragile object that requires constant attention and care from them. My Dad has actually said (and meant it), that if I leave home, I will die. I think he’s absolutely ludicrous. I still live with my parents and I have tried discussing moving out, but my Mom just sits there and my Dad goes into a full blown anxiety attack. I just don’t know how to break it to them. I don’t want to be selfish and hurt their feelings, but at the same time I’ve been a good daughter and I think it’s time to do something to make myself happy. And I see no problem in marrying someone that I love (and who loves me) after 2 years. Any advice would be very appreciated.

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Answer #1

Just explain, at age 18 young people become an adult - it is right that they should ‘leave the nest’ to make a life and family to Love and call their very own - Be assured, ‘you are not losing me - I’ll be in close contact - be cared for and Loved - Please support me, Love me, have confidence in me and know I am doing the right thing, it’s the next step’ - I wish you the very best and every happiness !!

Answer #2

Dear irish_rain, There comes a time when we do have to grow up and that means if we step on a few toes it isn’t’ the end of the world. Your parents sound very dramatic and chances are you may have a bit of that in you as well. So lets put the drama aside shall we…you are of legal age to move out and get married if you choose. So you do that…will you die without your parents…of course not…will they die without you there…of course not. Your fathers attacks are a great way to keep control over you. Will they eventually come around because they love you…more than likely. As an adult we make choices and there are consequences to those. So you will make the choice to move out…or will you wait till your 40? No…so they will react. Let them…they are adults and also know the consequence to their actions. Be prepared to deal with their negativity of the situation and handle it like an adult allowing them to react but not giving into the drama. They will come around, after all they moved out of their home and married, didn’t they. Sue…good luck

Answer #3

love them they will change

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