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I need some advice. I am not 100% sure if I am or not pregnant. I have every symptom except for tender breast & missed period. I am going tommorrow to the doctor to have a test & take further steps into which ever result I get. I need help though. My parents are so strict & way over-protective. I am 20 years old. I still live with them b|c I am attending Law School & its soo expensive to provide for school alone. Well, I am worried if I am pregnant my parents will kick me out & completely dis-own me. My parents hate the guy I am seeing. But we are completely head over heels in love with each other. I know he will be there for me… but he has a bit of a baggage right now. In 9 months, it will be a little better, but not much. Anyway… I am totally against abortion. I chose to have unprotected sex, I have to face the consequences. I just don’t know what to do about my parents. If the results do come back positive… should I wait to tell them? Tell them right away? & also, I don’t have very much money at all. I pay for my car & insurance. I think ever child deserves the greatest life in the world. But I know as of now.. I can not provide the child with that kinda life. & I am pretty sure my parents won’t help because of disappointment. Please help!

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Answer #1

Try not to get stressed out about your parents’ reaction. It may not be at all what you expect – once the news if any, has had a chance to sink in. Expect a big upset and commotion, but thats a natural response. And going by your age, your parents probably grew up in the 60s and 70s – an era full of freedom and promiscuity. So they’ve seen some things in their own lives. If my daughter presented me with such news, my reaction would be dependent on her attitude and ability to come through this experience as an adult. There is no question I’d be disappointed and wish that it could have been a couple of years down the road, but what’s done is done.

Answer #2

Congratulations. Now just always keep in mind that the whole rest of your future rests upon the outcome of the choices you make today and every today hereafter.

Sounds like you’re pretty smart, so I wish you the best for your future.

Ted

Answer #3

Don’t keep us waiting! What was the result?

Answer #4

My first advice is not to panic before getting your pregnancy test confirmed.

Next, if your result is positive well you have already made up your mind about having the baby so you have to plan how you are going to support yourself and the infant.

Your partner should be the first to help you (ex.: take you in, pay for the baby, etc.) but if for some reason he not able to, your best option seems to be to talk to your parents and see if with time they will be willing to help you. You can wait until the first three months are over since many women loose their babies naturally during this period.

Either way, you’ve said you want to keep the baby therefore your parents will find out sooner or later about it. I think sooner is better then later because this gives them time to accept that you are pregnant and decide whether they will help you or not. It also helps you to know if you can count on them or if you have to find help elsewhere. It’s better to use the next nine months to plan having the baby by finding financial aid and housing in case your parents don’t come through (ex.: your boyfriend, your boyfriends family, your friends and worst comes to worst, social services).

Answer #5

uhhh my parents are the same way my dad doesnt let me go anywhere :{

just let them know that you love the guy your with and that you have had sex .. if they love you they wont be dissapointed

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