How can I find God again?

well I have been raised in a family where they are strict with God and all and I dont mind at all when I was 14 that was when I accepted him but now im thrown off and every time I try to come back to God its hard I mean I try to come back into being christian but then my simple life problems all bring me down and then I grow weak and then when im weak I feel more relieved but I want to love God just like my parents do. I want to hear him..is it possible..

Answer #1

God finds you!

The process I went through was that first I became aware of my sinning nature. For days (or maybe it was weeks, I don’t remember) I truly felt remorse and guilt for what I had done over the years. I called up some of the people whom I had ‘trespassed’ against and humbly apologized. I asked for their forgiveness, and told them that it wasn’t necessary to verbally forgive me, but in time if they could do so in their heart. A few said they had no animosity toward me and did not know what I was talking about. One asked if I was in an alcohol recovery program, and I said no. Two asked if I was okay, saying they had concerns for my mental state. One, a former girlfriend, didn’t want to talk to me, and eventually said she will try to forgive me, but it will take time.

It was very difficult for me to do this; I had a lot of conflicting emotions about it. Afterward I just cried, mostly when I was alone. During this time I would pick up my wife’s Bible and open it up randomly and read a verse, sometimes more. Then I came to the verses where Jesus said it was important to - go to a place of water after being forgiven for your sins or they will be increased – (paraphrased). It struck a cord with me but I didn’t know what it meant. It was cold outside, February; all these questions started popping into my head. Was I suppose to find an unfrozen lake and jump into it? Were my sins forgiven? Lots and lots of questions and not one answer. I remember getting really, really scared. Am I going insane? I think I prayed, I am sure I did, I don’t remember. All I remember is that my mind was flooded with all of these questions; so many my entire focus was on them. I didn’t see anything, I didn’t hear anything, I was really afraid of going insane. I remember asking God to help me, out of pure fear. I don’t remember if it was that same day or the next day or the next week, I got this compelling urge to confess my sins. I remember resisting because I would be embarrassed to tell someone all of the things I have done. I turned on the television to get my mind on something else, that didn’t work. I remember trying to go for a walk to focus my attention on birds, trees or whatever. That didn’t work. I remember looking up in the sky and saying – what am I suppose to do? Where am I supposed to go? I got the urge to go to a place of worship. I justified reasons why I didn’t want to go to each one that I thought of. Then there was one that I had no personal experience with. Still I resisted, cringing with fear over how ashamed and embarrassed I would be telling a total stranger what an awful person I was. Somehow I found myself getting into my truck, with my mind saying – no way! When I got in I said to myself – I’d just go for a ride, so I did. Out of guilt I drove past the place. After circling the block a couple of times, I don’t remember if it was guilt or fear or an urge, but I convinced myself to park the truck and go over to the building saying to myself that it will be locked and I can go home. So I parked the truck and walked over to the building and pulled on the door handle; and it opened. At this point, I don’t know, maybe it was acceptance of my fate, fear or Divine guidance, but somehow I managed to walk over to the first person I saw and said I wanted to confess my sins. A couple of people took me into a private room where I tearfully confessed all of them, some specifically and some generally. Afterward I remembered the verse about finding water so I went straight home and took a shower and dried off with a new clean towel. My life has not been the same since.

Answer #2

I think it is very wonderful that you admire your parents, and want to be like them… That means that they have def. done something right… to cause you to feel this way… Have you talked to them about this… I am sure that they would appreciate hearing how you feel… and it would open up dialogue where you could learn more about how they feel about their relationship with the Lord. God is real, and he is spirit, he wants you to get to know him… and to follow him because you do.. He is wanting to be there for you… on the down times… learning and growing in the faith, is very exciting… and your bible is the guide… you will find him on the pages of scripture… go to it, prayfully…asking God to reveal himself to you… so that you can know and understand who he is. The bible is spirit inspired, and the spirit himself, will reveal it to you.. as you seek him… You will grow in your understanding of him, his ways, his expectations… etc.. and as you do, you will be establishing a working relationship with him, thru his word, and his spirit… let him talk to you off of the pages of his word… he can and he will… let him teach you how to apply that word… life in the spirit is wonderfull… and as he leads and you learn to follow.. he will open up a whole new world to you… and as you go… you can share his love… with many… learn of him…

Answer #3

There is a second option, which is, philosophy.

If religion is a Twinky, philosophy is steak and potatos. Not only does it satisfy, but it strengthens you as well rather than rotting you from the inside.

Answer #4

yes it’s very possible to hear god youjust got to listen heard!! but you shouldnt want to love just because you’r family do, you have to love god because you want to!! just thunk about all the thing’s he’s done for you !!! and you’r little issuse should not stop you from think’in about god!!! if something like that can stop you!!! thin you really dont want to love god or may be you should try another relogin!!! I dont know what ever you do just think about what I said!!!

Answer #5

There ARE many ways to Find God first contemplate at nature if you go to the beach touch the sand look at The sky .. plant a garden, volunteer at a orphanage, help in babysitting your younger brother or sister or next door neighboor child. Cook for your parents a delicious meal. help your mom in here house chores , don’t pass by when you see a homeless person in the street you may give him words of encouragement. hand out a bible. or money so he or she MAY eat..God is every where, it just take time to realized how blessed and how fortunate we are to have so much but IT GOES UN -NOTICED, when we help others God is there, that might help you get closer to God and open a way to direct you to a church that you may like. is not necessary to find fullfillment in your parents church what there style is not your style beliefs are all about .what you feel that God wants from you. God will Guide you but pray.. Blessed be

Answer #6

I’ve read some of the Answers.. And correct me if I’m, wrong. But allow me a moment to explain, I’ve been in you’re shoes.

The first thing I noticed, is that you basically stated, how can I be like my parents. Well, first off.. Be you’re own self, I think a major reason why this is so very difficult is because you are trying to be like them, exactly. Thus, take into account that, this process is one of a rigorous kind. It is a path.. You’re parents maybe a ways down their own path of this demeanor, but.. You’re path of which is you’re own!

Stack you’re self up, not by the level of which you believe you must compare to you’re parents. But of the level you seek in relation with god..

Build it & work on it, do not give up! Because, when you try to fit your self into the same as your parents.. it may not fit.. Not that you can’t be just as well devoted and loving of God or of gods love, you are & will forever be. But don’t try to fill shoes here, be you! God isn’t hiding behind some rock.. You are just deciding to remain comfortable in not walking you’re own path, its not one path for all its all paths for one.. you decide.

God loves you so much, and I know you love god! You have to seek him on you’re own terms.. You may say that your more comfortable in being weak, but thats not comfort, that just living in the assumption that being weak is easier than not.. But believe me, it takes more work to be weak, even if it seems like it takes more to believe and find god.

I think you’ll be fine! don’t give up or lose hope.. His arms are reaching.. Love him, he loves you.

God Bless! ~Ben~

Answer #7

Forgive the expression, but “oh, christ”. Do you really need to “find” God? If this is the case then you really need some life experience to be able to think for yourself. I am not trying to offend, belittle, or chastise you. I am just saying that you shouldn’t need to “find” God ever. I know that there is “God” everywhere in everything. It puts into perspective my physical presence on this earth. It helps me live more in harmony with others and the world around us. I am still a bad bad sinner according to some religions…. but those are religions.

Religions are just paths to help us on the way. They mean well. They give you good insight. But only you can commune with God. Only you can place right and wrong. If you are feeling that you fall on the complete opposite path that you feel is good for yourself and the planet you live on then you may need the conditioned response training that a church will provide. This can be a bit dangerous to your individuality though, because creating a conditioned response may be a small trauma to your psyche that could manifest itself as “straying from god” or “weakness” at a later time. You have to make your world view fit into what you believe is right as well as where you feel is truly following a more righteous path.

Live your life. Don’t live your parent’s lives and hope that is what is “acceptable” to be Godly. God always is speaking. Just stop and listen. It is just that God doesn’t speak in words. If you are waiting to hear words….. well, you may need some serious meds and a padded cell by the time you do hear them.

Answer #8

VVCF

Answer #9

go to church?

Answer #10

try going to church more. pray to hem ask him to let you come back. Pray ask him to help you buring hard times. Try to pray every night.

Answer #11

Do you have instant messenger, cuz I wanna help, I am a very well known christian, and there will always be ups and downs, but try to go to church.. get a bible pray, and be yourself not ur parents! If you need me= ksunshine923@msn.com

Answer #12

get a bible or something and read it instead of thinkin about your problems that dont matter think about the ones that do YOUR RELIGIOUS ONES if you need to talk email me..

Answer #13

hey. so i understand where you are coming from. its usually more difficult to do what is right as opposed to what is wrong. life can bring you down sometimes, but it is up to u to decide whether or not ur going to go through it alone or with God at your side. Without God in our lives, it is like we are trapped in a dark cave. we try and try again to find our way out alone. but we always falter and get even more lost. but if we decide that it is simply impossible to get out on our own and we cry for help, God takes our side. He shines like a light in that dark cave and suddenly we can find our way back again. and remember one thing, no matter how far we may wander from God, He will always take us back.

God Bless. Funmail me if you need someone to talk to. -pretty gurly

Answer #14

Life is full of ups and downs, and so is being a christian. You need to seek God, he is waiting for you, you just wandered away. He is waiting for you to come back and he is ready to receive you with open arms.

Keep reading the word and praying and no matter how much it feels like God is not listening, or that you’re far away.. keep at it, he is right there waiting for you

Answer #15

im not quite sure but i know exactly what u mean. i was catholic. i didnt cuss or cheat or do anything wrong. but my life went downhill fast when i was in about the 8th grade. i started cutting myself and feeling depressed and i wanted my life to end. i got into a lot of bad stuff. i then realized that it kept getting worse and worse and i felt like ther was no “god” up there making any effort at all to help me. i prayed but still my life got worse. ive been trying to find god again. if u figure this out please let me know.

Answer #16

yes it is possible im 14 rigtht now and i just find the lord after skipping 2 years of chruch after confirmation finished. I got back into the lord after I decided to go to the youth group at my church. There are also adult groups. You don’t necessarily hav to go to church but try to every now and then and find a fun way to get connected to ur church. Also pray before supper and bed every night (thts wut i do). Try to read a little bit of the bible and soon u’ll fall for his love again

Answer #17

For thoughtful people it can take a lot of time and effort to come up with their worldview. Your parents have taught you about their religion and why they believe. You can accept or reject this. Now is a good time to study other religions and philosophies to see if they resonate more to you. This is not a waste of time even if you end up going with the religion you were rasied in since after looking around you are making an educated decision rather than just accepting the only religion you know.

Answer #18

You never lost god … He is always there and always will be Just try looking in the right direction =]

Answer #19

yes, every one need’s god!! he made you your still alive bucause of him that’s how u can love him, i thank god every time i can, you should to,

Answer #20

No one ever said following god would be easy..Its easy to do what we want and not be accountable to anyone Doing the right thing is hard sometimes.

Answer #21

if u want to find god die symple as that

Answer #22

I know what you mean….we ALL have our mountaintops and valleys, the great news is He is there in both….us Christians mess up/grow distant too but He is faithful to forgive if we but ask….I would recommend looking around for an ‘alive’ church that really worships/praises Him and puts Jesus First in all they do….I am so blessed to have such a church near me !….just get in the Word where you’ll find MUCH encouragement !….start with Psalms and John….for you: Romans 8:28….like He said ‘seek and you SHALL (means mandatory) find’….the moment you were saved the Holy Spirit moved in and took up residence in your heart/soul, so you are hardly a dark_soul.

Have a great day !! Funmail me anytime !

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