How to cope with having a baby at 14?

I’m 14 and I am pregnant, I have no idea what to do, when my family finds out they will kill me! A few friends at school know and they are supporting me, I told the father of the baby and he is happy to help, he wants the baby,(his 17). I just don’t know how I will cope. HELP!!!

Answer #1

First of all, a 14 year old should not be having sex. However, since you obviously are, you are old enough to know about safe sex. You have already demonstrated a lack of responsibility by not using a source of birth control to prevent this from happening in the first place. Thats nice the your friends at school and the father are supportive but let me make two points, one, they are probably the same age or around the same age as you, and they are not the people you need to turn to for advice. Secondly, right now you are pregnant, I dont know if you have started showing or not yet but be careful because once your baby is born dont be surprised if the daddy isnt around. It is common at your age, its common at any age. I hope however I am wrong. I do not believe in abortion but their are a lot of couples out there who are unable to conceive a baby who desperatly want to become parents. As scary as it may seem you need to talk to your parents and tell them you are pregnant. Discuss the option of adoption. You are very young and you need time to grow up and experience life before having a baby. Babies are cute, they are fun and are an absolute blessing, but you will appreciate your baby and being a mother when you are older. There is a lot more to being a mother than buying cute little clothes and having a cute little baby. Parenting is hard, being a teenager is hard. Give yourself time to grow up. You havent experienced prom, you havent started driving, theres so much you have yet to experience. Good luck, and please look in to some birth control

Answer #2

there are lots of loving couples looking to adopt babies!!! you should check into that so when you tell your mom you can at least make her believe you know what you did wasnt responsible but you want to do whats right!

Answer #3

Hey, I was 17 when I came out pregnant and I was scared to tell my parents…my mom kinda knew already because havent started my period..and then she told my dad which I thought he would FLIP OUT but he didnt he was upset but they both chilled out …But if I was you just go talk to them ya there guna be upset but they will get over it and support you threw it …AND CONGRATS!!!

Answer #4

Im a little older than you and im pregnant. I told my mom the day I took a test and it came out positive and the only thing she is worried about is my education. I think that if you felt that you are responsible enough to have sex then you should deal with the consequences. She is going to be mad at first my mom was but now she is really supportive. the sooner you tell her the less mad she will be.

Answer #5

How far along are you? Do they know that you were or are sexually active.

Do your parents approve of your boyfriend? Because if not and they get really upset they can easily file charges on him for rape.

Simple fact of the matter is that you are way too young to be having a baby. You probably should consider putting the child up for adoption. Kids aren’t meant to be raising kids.

~Melinda~

Answer #6

You need to talk to your parents right away. Although it will be scary- its a situation that has to be delt with sooner or later. You need to start prenatal care as soon as possible. You made the decision to have sex, and this is a consequence. Having a baby is a grown up thing- so make the first grown up step and talk to your parents.

Answer #7

Your family is obviously going to be mad, I don’t blame them. You are too young to raise a baby, you need to focus on your education and a job. I personally think you should consider adoption so you know the baby will have the proper care.

Answer #8

hey girl I now how ya fell. im 17 and just had a miscarriage. when I found out I was pregnant I was so excited, me and my boyfriend talked about the baby everyday. we figured out names and everything.but then I thought on how to tell my parents. I thought that when I got big enough I would leave. I was and still am scared to tell them I was pregnant and that I had a miscarrage. I think that you and your boy should tell ya’lls parents together. I’ve raised my baby sister, she started calling me mom, and it was not easy. at least you man wants to stay. only 5% or so stay. so you lucky. it will be hard but you gotta do it. you got support from us all. good luck sweety :)

Answer #9

hi there sweetie :) I was 18 when I got pregnant with my son but at the same time I was terrified … I felt completely alone and betrayed his father didnt want anything to do with him and I hadnt told my parents :S thats the worst …holding it back just talk to them sweetie youll feel a lot better and although they may not be happy at first... theyll come to terms with it and be supportive towards you and helping you prepare for this bundle of joy your carrying :) dont stress yourself out its not good for you or the baby just sit your parents down and talk to them im sure they`ll come to terms with it… :) take care Amy

Answer #10

it will be very hard but you can do it I have done it had my first at 15 make a plan and stick to it I tell eveyone this it help me the most fun mail me and I can help you some more

Answer #11

hey , im having a pregnacy scare atm , the father is a year younger thn me he will have nothing to do with it can I have you help please if I am we can go trough it toghther yeh fun mail me back take care x

Answer #12

I need help in the same category, well I’m almost fifteen and pregnant! what do you think I should do?

Answer #13

wow you have a lot on your plate. tell the parents as soon as possible so they can suport you. I got pregnant when I was 16 and I was still just as scared as you are so I told my favourite aunty first and she told my family. by the time they talked to me afterwards they were more chilled about it. your lucky the daddy is wanting to help.. maybe get him to come with you to tell them ?? good luck

Answer #14

you should tell your perents to go on a really long nine month trip! they go to mexico and you go to hawaii or paris or japan!!

Answer #15

hey im da same age and im prego also.I told my mom even tho she’s not happy she’s supportive…so…just tell them get it over with…

Answer #16

you no what you could get all the advice in the world but that wont change and e thing for you this is something only you can deside nobody no’s your situation but you I dont believe in abortion and e baby a blessing form god and should be born if you feel under your sucomstances you canted raise it and deside adoption you wont be wrong for that any disistion you make from now on involes YOU childs life seach your heart I have 2 kids am only 23 dont let and e one make you be assamed of your pregnancy so with that congradulation I hope you keep my posted

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