What if I want a baby and I'm 14?

im 14 almost 15, and I want a baby realy bad, I think ide make a realy good mum, ide go to the park with my son/daughter ide be there when he/she crys ide love him/her like any other parent would. But because im only 14 it would be a bit of a problem I dont no what to do, I mean I can’t exactly tell a teacher, or my parents help!!!

Answer #1

Dear Lovemyboy:

As a women we are maternal by nature so the desire to have a baby is not abnormal. I do believe you would make a great mom, and know that you would treat your child with all the love a mother could possibly afford … but that’s where we have to ask ourselves, are we ready to give up everything, I mean everything for the well being of a future being we want to bring into the world. I can see by the responses you’ve given other’s that you really desire to have a baby, and I’m not here to diminish that. I do want to suggest something that might alleviate the desire to have a child so soon. You do want the best for you child right? A good loving family growing up with no secretes, and all of your quality time geared towards making that happen? Am I correct? If you can’t tell your parents you want a child that’s the first secrete your child will have to grow up in. Second of all will you be able to continue the education needed to help your child succeed in school as well. I believe it would be best if you made having a family perhaps a primary goal! Everything you do in school can be focused on preparing yourself to be the best mom possible … then when the right time comes along .. such as when your financially stable yourself, have a man who is willing to stand by you no matter what, then god willing start making the family you desire! Does this make sense! So to help with the need of having a baby so soon try to stay focused on it’s best interest, and do everything you can do now to make that happen! For me, that would mean completing high school, knowing who you are and loving the person you are, as through our teens this is a period of identity crisis and enjoy doing everything in life, as that joy will then follow through your gene pool, trust me! You will make a beautiful mother one day, let’s just try to wait until that time is right! If you have any other concerns or want to drop any thoughts my way please feel free to do so! Good luck!

Answer #2

wow darlin you are sooo young I spose you are sick of hearing that tho. when I was your age I thought there was something wrong with me because I like you wanted a baby so bad it hurt. its only as I got older that I figured out it was because I wasnt getting the love from my family that I needed and I wanted something to love me unconditionally all to myself. without sounding mean to you I was being selfish. yes I would have been a good mum at that age but being a good mum isnt that hard. its being a fantastic mum 24/7 that is the hard task. I think you need to ask yourself are you feeling neglected ? do you have any good mates that you do things with? sweety its a huge thing to want a baby and its an even bigger task to raise one how they should be raised. I am not doubting your ability but instead your reasons for it. xx I hope this helps. ohh and in the end I ended up having a lovelly girl at 18 and a boy at 24. im glad I waited as I was more prepared for it emotionally. xx

Answer #3

ok let me tell you a few things!!! YOu are crazy!!! having a baby this young will really hurt you in life. im not saying that you would not be a great mom but what I am saying is that you will have to worry about a lot of other things!! How are you goin to pay for the baby??? who is goin to help you watch and raise the baby while you are in school??? How are you goin to pay for your babys food and dipers?? My sister was 16 years old and got pregnet … she had the baby two days after he 17th birthday! she is raising the baby by herself because the boyfrined left, she is on wealfare (which is not a bad thing but she could be doing better) and she has to do side jobs like clean the nebighors house and stuff to get money to pay for the dipers and cloths because my parents don’t have the mony to pay for the baby, she now is talking about droping out of school and stuff because of the baby and getting home schooled. she can’t really get a job cause my mom can’t watch the baby and no one else can either … and no money for a baby sitter! I think you need to think about this a lot harder and a lot longer I am 20 living on my own and working at taco bell and I am not ready for a baby so you are not ready for a baby!!!

Answer #4

chick dont do THAT! your regret it after because while your in sckool who going to take care of her! and if you give it to your mom all the time your babay might think your mom is his/her mom! soo and your going to mess up your life! its not a healthy thing to do! how how are you going to provide for the baby ! you cant drop out of sckool because then thats really bad! and your education should come first! if you want to be succesful in life the I suggest you to go to sckool wait til your older then have a babi! really im serouse dont do it a lot of gurls messed up their lives because of having kids and I know having kids is a beautiful thing but not at this age!!! think about it! or just babi sit so you think the babi’s are urs!

Answer #5

Ah wait a while longer till you can find sombody you love and then geta job and then have your baby it would have a shelter,food,love and if you got pregnant and he loved he would stay wit you its all up to you in the long run!

                                                          shannon mckay♥
Answer #6

I think that your to young yet lol.. im 16 and I dont know what id do if I were to get pregnant :O your still young and you want to enjoy yourself first ..not being stuck in looking after a baby while all your friends are out having fun… I think you should wait untill you have your life in order and have job and home and your with someone you love and want to have kids with.

Answer #7

So baby sit if you want to be around babies… I know babies look like fun, but you have to be there 24/7 for the next 20 years… Yes going to the park is fun, but not sleeping for 7 nights straight because the baby’s crying because she has colic is not… How are you going to go to school, or get a job with a baby, and if that doesnt sound important, how are you going to support this baby?

Answer #8

Hey, Im the same im 14, 15 in may. I’ve already been pregnant, I had a miscarrage though. Me and my boyfriend were heart broken. I still want a child but I know I shouldnt trust babes. its going to ruin your life. I want one so bad aswell but - we just cant yunno. I’ve been with my boyfriend 8months now. and we have decided to wait wait babes.

Add me on msn yeah? Ladybug93@hotmail.co.uk

Answer #9

ok, I would suggest NOT having a baby.. at least at this prime age, your WAYY too young sweetie, I would SERIOUSLY consider you thinking about this, dont think about now, think about the future, how are you going to raise the baby, it is alright to have wants but you need to be concerned with your needs, and you DONT need a baby.. feel free to funmail me if you have any questions. :]

Answer #10

ok you should talk 2 your parents about it and if yuo dont wana give bith theres always hundreds of kids in orphaniges

Answer #11

okay chick you are to young!!! I think you should think bout it more cause you are to young to get a job and stuff!

Answer #12

thnx you guys..:)

but its reali gettin me down, when I see mums with there babys and stuff. I cant help but want one :(:(

Answer #13

kay you need to buy a computer used baby that axcually poops and crys girl you to young

Answer #14

Definately try babysitting instead - you get paid to look after the babies but you don’t have to stay with them all night!

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