13 going on 14 and no privacy

How are they horrible? Not letting a 14 year old go to the bathroom in private is going above and beyond… It’s actually kinda disturbing at that point… I’d start with that… Exactly what does she think you’re going to do in the bathroom? And what does she think you’re going to do period? I mean you’re not 3, you’re not likely to drown yourself in the bathtub… uhm yeah, I wouldnt bring up the whole sex thing again. That’s not likely to get you anything but more trouble. Have you thought about turning things around on her? Go chat with her while she’s in the shower or in the bathroom, see how she likes that… Go check on her every five minutes, it will save her the trip, and maybe she’ll get the point and back off? This has to be done very unobtrusively though. And it has to be done for a while… Just smile and pretend like you just want to be around her 24/7… It’s not the most mature way to handle things, but sometimes parents refuse to listen to reason…

I feel so sorry for you, that sounds horrible. I wouldn’t have been able to cope if I’d of had parents had been like that.

Fair enough she may find your clothing a style a bit risque for her liking and may not want you learning about sex and going off and having it, but making you keep the door open when you use the toilet and shower is ridiculous. However I have a little scheming plot that will have her forcing you to shut the door whilist you use the toilet, it may sound a little disgusting but it’ll get the results you require… Eat heaps of Baked Beans and eggs on toast. The Bread will give you fibre for number 2’s and the Baked Beans and Eggs will make them smell so bad that it’ll become a rule that you shut the door while you use the toilet.

In regards to the talk, start asking her questions/making quotes about sex like ‘’I heard you can only get pregnant by having sex during the first week of spring’’ or ‘’I heard condoms are the leading sorce of vagina cancer’’ or ‘’I’m so glad having sex with another guy directly after having sex with a guy cancels out any chance of getting pregnant’’. As soon as your mum hears you quoting totally inaccurate ‘’quotes’’ like these she will realize she needs to have the talk with you or something bad is going to happen.

I hope I’ve helped

Your situation does sound a little tighter than most. But you haven’t given any details as to your background or location.

Could there be a cultural issue going on here? Are your parents first generation immigrants to the US, England or Australia, for example? A lot of times it’s hard for them to see their kids influenced by the values of the “west.” They may see music, pregnancy, make up, drugs and school dropouts, they may not understand or accept the level of freedom or the lack of responsility we might have compared to how they grew up.

It can also depend on how your parents themselves were raised. Sometimes understanding what’s beghind the behaviour makes you feel like half the battle is done.

What about a close uncle or aunt you can discuss this with? They may be able to talk to your parents and suggest small openings of freedom that will make them feel more secure.

On top of all of this, 13 to 14 is a very difficult time period for most girls. In the most liberal families, even, there’s a huge struggle between the independence you want and the control your parents still need or want. It’s not easy in the best of situations.

Ok so listen my mom was like that until I ‘m in high School now so I’m 16 and I’m gonna be a junior this yr. Tell your mom that you are old enough 2 do stuff your own now. I mean your parents don’t you have like guests come over or anything like that like family members well thats really rude how they treat you about not having the door closed and all. your parents should change when you are in High School cause when you graduate you go 2 college and your on your own so try 2 have a talk about that cause my parents stopped everything like that. They always let me close the door cause it’s nasty going 2 the bathroom with the door open!! GAG!! But when you take a shower heres one thing mold grows when you have the door closed but when the door is open not much grows. Hope this helps!!!

well she needs to be aware that lots of girls are havngs sex at yur age but its not often that they actually want to learn about sex (which is why a lot of them end up pregnant) tell your mum that your not a child anymore, your still a kid but your growing up and she doesnt have to treat you like a child she should be happy that you want to learn abut sex and that you came to her for advice try asking her again and tell her that you beleive your old enough to learn about it and want her advice also tell her that you want a bit more privacy and want to close the doors when you go to the toilet or have a shower, tell her your not doing anything wrong you just want to cloose the dor so you can go to toilet an shower in private after all im sure she wouldnt like it if she had to keep the door open!

Sit your mother down and ask her why she dose not trust you to go to the wash room alone. If your mother does not wanna talk to you about sex then go to a sexual education teacher, your counclier at school , Or even if you have questions regarding sex or any thing else you can feel free to fun mail me. But as for your mother tell her your a teenager 13 going on 14 those were the worst years of my life. But im sure if you do your best to try and prove to your mother that you are adult enough to go to the wash room with the door closed or pick out what you would like to ware she will come around. Try to deal with it the best way you can and dont let it get too you too much . I hope I helped. Yours Truly, Demika Ray

Oh my gosh! And I thought my parents were horrible! lol. My mom still checks on me every 15 minutes or so, and I am 14. I even had to resort to locking my door so that she couldnt get it! she doesnt even knock, she just bursts in and asks me what im doing. even in the washroom! what else would I be doing in there? lol obviously… thats not hard to answer. Well, I would take the advice of everyone on here so far, they are all good, and I wish you good luck with your privacy problem.

are you a only child or her first?

Have a nice Long heart to heart chat with her