How can I get my mom to let me date?

I have really liked his boy for two years. My mom knows him really well and she trust me and him. I have been wanting to talk to my mom about this but i just dont know how to approch this subject. Oh yeah my dad is auper protective. He said if i ever thought about dating he would scare the brains out of the boy that i was dating. I really want to go out with him but my parents wont let me. I don’t know what to do. I always wonder why they don’t want me to date him and the only thing that I can think of is that he travels because of his familys bussiness and he lives in Flordia and i live in Michigan. Maybe my parents dont want me to be in a long distance relastitionship. I think I can handle it.

Answer #1

You’re 13 and don’t need a boyfriend. That’s why they don’t want you to date. You’re in middle school, for god sakes.

Answer #2

Give her a break dating is fine at thirteen let her explore learn about a relationship. Geez youre way too uptight

Answer #3

Just ask your mom why they don’t want you dating then explain why you want to and be mature about it. Persuad but don’t argue

Answer #4

Your 13 I don’t think they want you to date period… As in anyone maybe there’s nothing wrong with him your just to young. focus on school and just having a good time.. That’s how I figure they see it and my dads way over protective to he wouldent let me date till I was 18 n looking back I’m glad that was his rule. Just go with your parents rules there, there for a reason. But you could just sit down with your mom n ask when your allowed to date?

Answer #5

I’m not uptight. I was dating at 11. It isn’t good for you. It hurts you when the guy treats you like dirt. That’s how it always goes. If she wants to ruin her view on dating the sure, let her go ahead.

Answer #6

Just cuz you had a bad experience doesn’t mean she will. I dated at 11 too was it silly, yeah, but I was dating a girl I liked and we had a decent relationship. I learned a lot about myself and what I should look for in girls. Experience is the only way we learn

Answer #7

13 isn’t that young for a relationship. If its a good relationship it could be very fun and uplifting having someone who cares a lot about you. Its not like she’s having sex or any. It’s a harmless relationship and even if it’s short lived or silly she can learn from it. Shes just trying to enjoy life and exploring crushes and love is an important journey in a persons life

Answer #8

Sorry if I come off as rude in my comments I just don’t understand why people freak out over a 13 year old dating

Answer #9

I’m thinking from a parents personal view n my own experience.. Relationships are pointless at that age really no need for them. N if you get hurt you hold it throughout all your other relationships.. My teacher said that n it’s so true!

Answer #10

My first boyfriend wss when I was 12 and I was in 7th grade. He was my friend for 2 years. We were together for 1 year and 8 months. Then broke it off. But long distance isnt worth it. Wait till you find someone you actually like and that goes to school with you. But you have to be really committed and have to keep your grades up and be in a healthy relationship. But have a boyfriend. Not dates. Wait till your 15 or 16. Good luck

Answer #11

From a 13 year old girl’s point of view (yes, I was 13 once): I feel that I am mature enough to handle a relationship and I really like this boy. My parents don’t understand how I feel and they want to prevent me from ever growing up. I know how far I want things to go and I can handle any consequences that may arise due to this relationship. I’m not a little kid anymore. I think I should be allowed to make my own decisions.

From a parent’s point of view: Only 13 years ago I held you in my arms for the first time. It seems like forever to you, but it was only yesterday to me … you’re still so young and you’re trying to grow up so fast. I was your age once and I felt the way you feel. I wanted the things you want. I’m trying to prevent you from making the mistakes I made. I know you feel like you’re “all grown up”, but you still have so far to go and so much to learn. Your childhood is reaching its end as you enter your teen years … don’t let them pass you by as you grasp for adulthood. You only get once chance to be young and carefree - you’ll be an adult for the rest of your life. Boys will still be there when you’ve played out your youth … all I ask is that you stay young, just a little longer, so you don’t have to regret it later the way I do.

Answer #12

Lol whatever

Answer #13

You’re 13, there’s plenty of time for you to date and explore relationships. Focus on your friends and school for now. Relationships especially at such a young age will only lead to drama and heartache.

Answer #14

i agree with will, theres no problem with dating at 13, oh and it’s junior high not middle school honey…

Answer #15

My school is called S** P* Middle School, so, yeah, it’s middle school.

Answer #16

Well when i was 13, I thought I was damned ready for a relationship. Actually I just didnt really care if I was ready or not. There isnt a problem dating at 13, it’ll give experience and lessons, etc.. Just sit down with your mom (dont talk with your Dad first), and calmly tell her about how you feel about the whole situation..dont raise your voice or loose your temper if she says no or whatnot, because generally how you react to that sums up if your mature enough or ready for the relationship. If you say okay and follow what she advices or tells you, maybe she’ll consider it again.

Answer #17

I think you can start dating when you feel ready too? It helps you define who you are and what you want in life. Yes you get your heart broken and you make silly mistakes but that’s how you grow as a person.

Try and sit down with your Mum and talk to her honestly, tell her you understand she worries, but your mature enough not to get yourself into trouble. If you can, try and reassure her that all your doing is getting to know one another? And that you would rather be open and honest with her and be able to talk her about it, than feel that you have to hide that your dating someone? Ask her questions about when she started dating etc, and just remind her that you need to make your own mistakes in life :) Hope this helps

Answer #18

lol i dont know what u mean by all those * but dont waste ur time cuz its junior high not middle school okay?yeah.

Answer #19

And this would be prime example why children 2day are haven children…13 hell a 13 yr old don’t kno what luv is…..my guess is this 1 will have a baby by 15… lord have mercy

Answer #20

K its middle school so ya lmao

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