How do you stop yourself from being a bad person?

I wonder if you’re somehow covering up a self-esteem issue? Sometimes we deflect our own insecurities by pointing at, or noticing others’ faults or shortcomings. A lack of confidence in yourself may be what’s behind it, and to cover that up, maybe it feels better pointing at others and mocking them.

Another possibility is that you really do feel superior to most people, but I’d be willing to guess that’s not the case. You sound like you care what other people think of you, and you probably don’t ever want to be labelled as arrogant or rude, which probably led you to posting this.

Good point about the people you hang out with. It’s very easy to get caught up in that type of behaviour when you’re in a group of people. Peer pressure can be quite negative.

I also think emotional maturity comes to us slowly and gradually, as our life experiences grow. I don’t think you have too much to worry about - I don’t believe you’re a bad person at all, and seeing these things in yourself is probably more than half the battle done. I think you are a very good self-observer. Many people are not.

That was a great answer pinkpearl.

My suggestion is to start breaking the habit. Even when you “think” a negative or judgemental thought, don’t “speak” it. Keep it to yourself. Words are powerful. What you say affects you and everyone around you. Start the process of changing and soon you will feel better about yourself for doing so. I’ve read it takes about 21 days to break a habit if you consistently keep trying. Trust me, I’ve broken a few myself.

thanks so much, omd!

You are not a bad person for judging people. Style is nothing but nothing is without style. There is a lot to say about the way people dress or act in public. What I would do is try to look for positive things to point out as well as the not so positive things. If you feel bad about it then that is a good sign. if you were a bad person this would not bother you. Cheer up! and remember if you dont have anything nice to say dont say anythig. unless the people surrounding you dont mind. Its natural to judge people.