Why do people try to mold us into who they think we should be instead of just letting us be who we are?

it keeps going double on me…

I constantly deal with this because of my looks, interest, hobbies, etc. My mother, family, strangers, everyone gives me grief about how its not how women my age should look or act. I dont see why you cant be a good mother and also a rocker, gun enthusiast, tattooed, pierced, strip club lover, and just different.

you can never change a man, no matter what you’ve been told. also, people think they can mold us, because they are afraid of losing us. They wither want to make us into what they find suitable, or they are insecure about themselves. It most likely insecurities.

Everybody thinks they know what is right for others ( but not for themselves.)

Most likely because they have experienced or are experiencing some type of fear of being rejected, and they want to rid that feeling by telling others how to be and what is better for them. This is a general answer, but most of the time it is an opinion and is based off the person’s thoughts and values.

It mostly comes from them being treated the same way by their parents. One factor behind it is they are afraid their children will fail in life. Following the parents roll gives them the assurance everything will turn out okay. It could also be they don’t want their children to be any different then them. Or like me, my parents grew up in the Great Depression, the 1930’s, they wanted us boys to enter into the professions, lawyers, dentist, doctors, etc. Because they experience hard times they didn’t want their children to experience the same thing. The outcome was none of us boys went into the profession. We turned out great.

In either case above it all stems from insecurity within themselves. Most parents don’t know how to guide their children or even get interested in what they do. The child who has parents who are interested in them, allow their children to choose what they want, guide them without pushing are very lucky. Not many of those around.

beats me, my boyfriend is like so authoritative he wants to be in total control of me. but i dont let hiim get away with that, i know i love him and i want to see him happy and i dont want to see him hurt, but, he cant tell me to cut communicating with my ex. its my life