how do i tell my 12 year old she is reading inappropriate things?

I think you need to take control of the situation. You’re the parent, after all. It would be a good idea to set the parental controls on the computer and to limit her exposure to the Internet. If she’s only twelve years old, she really has no business being on the Internet anyway. Most websites require that their users be thirteen or older.

Just remember; twelve is usually the age girls discover their sexuality, and they become curious about it. Don’t punish her for her actions. She’s not a bad kid. Instead, it’s probably time to sit her down and explain things to her. Of course, whether or not you think she’s ready is up to you. But along with the birds-and-bees talk, you should also discuss Internet safety with her; explain to her that there are sometimes dangerous people on the Internet who would hurt her, if given the chance.

Good luck!

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I know I’m no parent or anything but sex and relationships were never talked about with my parents and I was the one who had to watch out for my younger sister as well as have the talks with her. I agree with BreizhM completely, I think you really need to talk to her about everything to do with the subject, sex, procreation, STD’s, self respect, relationships etc. Talk to her about the changes going through her body, explain to her that the feelings she and every other teenager feels, are because of hormonal chances. Talk to her about being careful in relationships, maintaining her self respect, not letting people treat her badly especially at this age where teenage boys are… well teenage boys. Warn her about sexual predators. I think it’s best to have this open relationship about this, let her know she can talk to you about these things, curiosities, and that she can trust you to listen.

I’m 12 too, and I know alot of girls who read things like that. Even I read them. My Older sister says that this is the age that ‘ brings things together’. Its where we find out the kind of things we like to read, the kind of web sites we like.

Those kind of sites make us more cautious, and knowing 12 year olds of this generation, she shady knows about ‘that stuff’

There is quite the distinction between being educated about sex and reading sexually explicit items.

I know I was 12 when I started wondering about sex. It’s part of life. But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t take control on things. Put limits on your Internet. Talk to her. Ask her what she knows. It’s your daughter and its your choice. Best of luck. tigerlover101