How can i stop being paranoid and go to the bathroom?

The main way to get over anxieties and fears isto desensitize yourself through exposures and facing your fears. Make it a point to drinks alot of water before you are going to a public place and make sure you go into the bathroom and try and go…do not just give up and walk out…sit there for as long as you can or until you go…bring a book or something else distracting with you into the bathroom, play on your phone..no matter what make sure you sit there until you go…

that’s…really hard. there is no way i would be able to do that. i can’t even go in my own house, how am i supposed to go out in public? i was in the bathroom a few minutes ago and my mum came into the kitchen. i managed to stay on the toilet for several seconds before it became too much for me and i had to come back out. i still need to go but she’s still in the kitchen T.T

Its mind over matter…..you wont even try and your using the word “cant” you will never get over it with an attitude like that dear. You want to change….theres no easy fix you have to work at it.

i have the exact same as u , i hate it and always make myself ill because of it.

how do you deal with it?

Its really hard. My boyfriend always shouts at me as am always complaing with a sore tummy and always bloated and something i cant eat because of it. the onli time i can relax is when no 1 is in my house. in my house ther is onli me and my boyfriend. i say to myself if i dont do it i will have to go into hosptial again and that makes me so scared that i just have to tell myself to do it. but sometimes i cant. It is soo hard for me as i still cant deal with it. my boyfriend said that is gny end up being my death as i will just explode 1 day and it is not good for my insides. but i have been in hospital and all that because of it.

Young ladies, the only way to beat that feeling is to change the way you think about going to the bathroom… If you want to pass a test what do you do, you practice, by studying for it….and when you know the day comes to take that test, you are prepared…you know what the questions are going to be like…and you keep telling yourself that you are going to ace it…why because you have to right?! If you dont & you keep saying that you cant pass the test you are causing negative thought to flow through your brain and sends negative signals causing you fear & that is also why you wind up failing the test…. Same goes for anything in your life…if you keep saying I cant go to the bathroom when people are around because \i sm afraid they are going to hear that I went to the bathroom or smell that I went to the bathroom, then of course you wont be able to go you are putting the death of fear into you by saying so & will never change that bad habit. Here is an idea…the next time you have to go & are afraid to go while someone is there…pretend they arent there…tell yourself that they arent there over & over & over again until you feel comfortable to just let go!!!! sing to yourself…& if someone says hey are you almost done in there…just ignore them & finish up what you were doing….pay no mind to anyone because remember in yourmind there is no one there but you & the toilet… if you cant go try to think you are in a hot tub…taking a bubble bath…and all of a sudden you gotta go bad…only in this case…allow yourself to just be free to let go!

hope this helped!

therapists are a bad idea, try finding something that comforts you and take it with you(if only once, you may find just thiking of said thing or person/place makes you feel better)

therapists are a bad idea, try finding something that comforts you and take it with you(if only once, you may find just thiking of said thing or person/place makes you feel better)

Lol. Mandy was talking about public toilets and all i’m thinking is gross (yeah, my ocd kicks in), we all have our random phobias. Thing is, you really want to deal with it before it goes crazy. And she’s right, you do have to actually do something to get over it. Public restroom may be a big step (lol, i have an issue with bathrooms other people in my family use, so i can understand how this could seem really impossible right now). So you take little steps. Put down what seems most scary (public bathrooms) and what seems least scary (I dunno, your mother being several doors down? this is the woman that changed your diapers you know…), and then work up step by step. Yes, it will be uncomfortable. And there will be anxiety. But do it any ways. No turning on the taps or whatever. Also, seriously, you want to think about what the big deal is. I understand that this seems like an issue to you, but it really doesnt to most people. So, what exactly is it that is getting to you. Oh, and you can do it! I can use public restrooms now (unhappily, but I’ll do it).

look i used to be like that take my advice don’t set on the toilet

Would it work if you put a song of a sink running on your mp3 player and then if someone is around or you are in a public bathroom, you could put on the headphones and not hear them, and not be as aware of them?

lol i dont think that wud work for me coz then i’d be paranoid that ppl can hear the song